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Anxhela Cuka | 04.02.2020 | nyje.al<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Udh\u00ebtim n\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn<\/strong><\/span>
N\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb titull \u201cUdh\u00ebtim n\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn\u201d, po botojm\u00eb nj\u00eb cik\u00ebl shkrimesh dhe bisedash nga disa t\u00eb rinj nga qytete t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb q\u00eb aspirojn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhen gazetar\u00eb. Jan\u00eb realizuar me prind\u00ebrit, gjysh\u00ebrit dhe t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit e tyre me q\u00ebllim njohjen e jet\u00ebs n\u00eb rreth t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb familjar po edhe njohjen e jet\u00ebs shoq\u00ebrore p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb shekullit t\u00eb kaluar. Si jetonin apo mbijetonin njer\u00ebzit tan\u00eb; si dashuroheshin apo detyroheshin t\u00eb zgjidhnin njeriun e jet\u00ebs; si e g\u00ebzonin jet\u00ebn dhe si i p\u00ebrballonin goditjet e saj; si ishin t\u00eb ndara rolet n\u00eb familje, dhe n\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri sa t\u00eb varf\u00ebr aq edhe t\u00eb kontrolluar si\u00e7 ishte shoq\u00ebria shqiptare n\u00eb vitet 1945-1990?<\/em><\/span>
Jan\u00eb rr\u00ebfime q\u00eb iu tregojn\u00eb t\u00eb rinjve se e shkuara e paraardh\u00ebsve, n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb apo n\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen e secilit dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen e nj\u00eb vendi t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb.<\/em><\/span><\/p>

E drejta p\u00ebr t\u2019u shkolluar dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb ushtruar profesionin e d\u00ebshiruar n\u00ebn komuniz\u00ebm, nuk ka qen\u00eb shpeshher\u00eb zgjedhje e lir\u00eb. Edhe at\u00ebher\u00eb kur individi q\u00ebllonte n\u00eb shenj\u00eb, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr fat p\u00ebrgatiste sistemi p\u00ebr t\u00eb: e largonte nga vendlindja dhe t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit.<\/span><\/p>

M\u00ebsuesi sh\u00ebtit\u00ebs<\/strong><\/span>

Ki\u00e7o\u00a0Bajlozi \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebsues n\u00eb pension. Historia e tij edhe pse nuk ka n\u00eb t\u00eb asgj\u00eb t\u00eb pazakont\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb e ngjashme me historin\u00eb e shum\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb do duhej t\u00eb largoheshin nga vendlindja p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar atje \u201cku kishte nevoj\u00eb atdheu\u201d. Si d\u00ebshmitar i dy sistemeve t\u00eb ndryshme politike, \u201cm\u00ebsuesi sh\u00ebtit\u00ebs\u201d ndan me ne disa momente t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, p\u00ebr shembull, f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb. Ishte nj\u00eb koh\u00eb tep\u00ebr e trazuar\u00a0dhe me mungesa, megjithat\u00eb f\u00ebmija ishte falenderues ndaj prindit.<\/span>
A mund t\u00eb prezantoheni p\u00ebr lexuesin ton\u00eb?\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>
Po, sigurisht. Quhem Ki\u00e7o Bajlozi, kam lindur n\u00eb 5 gusht t\u00eb vitit 1938, n\u00eb fshatin\u00a0Pendavinj t\u00eb Kor\u00e7\u00ebs.<\/span>
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Nga \u00e7far\u00eb familje vini?<\/strong><\/span>
Familja jon\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebhej nga dy prind\u00ebrit dhe 3 f\u00ebmij\u00eb, 2 v\u00ebllez\u00ebr dhe 1 mot\u00ebr. Edhe pse babai im ka\u00a0pasur mentalitet pak m\u00eb t\u00eb hapur se banor\u00ebt apo personat e tjer\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb kam njohur, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri ka qen\u00eb sistemi ai q\u00eb na ndrydhte, si ne edhe prind\u00ebrit tan\u00eb. Por, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri g\u00ebzonim harmoni n\u00eb familje dhe respekt. N\u00ebna dhe babai p\u00ebrpiqeshin q\u00eb t\u00eb respektonin figur\u00ebn ton\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrore, ashtu si\u00e7 ne p\u00ebrpiqeshim t\u2019i kuptonim ata kur silleshin t\u00eb sert\u00eb me ne.<\/span><\/p>

Me cilin nga prind\u00ebrit keni qen\u00eb m\u00eb i lidhur?\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>
Kam qen\u00eb shum\u00eb i lidhur me n\u00ebn\u00ebn. Figura e babait n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb ka qen\u00eb shum\u00eb autoritare dhe shumic\u00ebn e koh\u00ebs si un\u00eb, ashtu edhe v\u00ebllai dhe motra ndrydheshim q\u00eb t\u2019i shpreheshim babait. Por edhe me babain tim kam kujtime mjaft t\u00eb mira. Kalonim koh\u00eb s\u00eb bashku sepse ishte ai q\u00eb m\u00eb shoq\u00ebronte gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb.<\/span>
Dhe si ka qen\u00eb kjo f\u00ebmij\u00ebria juaj?\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>
Na mungonin gj\u00ebrat m\u00eb elementare, veshmbathjet dhe ushqimi, edhe pse familja jon\u00eb konsideroheshe familje e pasur, ish-bejler\u00eb. Jetonim me gjysh\u00ebrit dhe v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit e babait. Gjithsej n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi b\u00ebheshim 17 vet\u00eb, 9 prej t\u00eb cil\u00ebve ishin f\u00ebmij\u00eb. E mbaj mend si sot, kur mamaja na i mbante fshehur k\u00ebpuc\u00ebt e mira\u00a0q\u00eb i p\u00ebrdornim ve\u00e7 p\u00ebr sebepe. Ishin k\u00ebpuc\u00eb q\u00eb i ndanim s\u00eb bashku me tim v\u00eblla, ashtu si\u00e7 ndanim edhe \u00e7do veshmbathje. Edhe p\u00ebr sebepet q\u00eb b\u00ebheshin, si \u00e7do f\u00ebmij\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb grindeshim, se kush do t\u00eb shkonte dhe kush do t\u00eb rrinte n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Ishim me fat, q\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00ebrin nga ne t\u00eb dy e zinte lapsi nj\u00ebher\u00eb po dhe nj\u00ebher\u00eb jo, q\u00eb t\u00eb shkonte. Nd\u00ebrsa motra rrinte gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.<\/span>
E mbaj mend t\u00eb trazuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb, megjithat\u00eb ishim t\u00eb lumtur dhe falenderues ndaj prind\u00ebrve, gj\u00eb q\u00eb tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe rinia e sotme nuk e shoh.<\/span><\/p>

T\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb do t\u00eb thoshit edhe p\u00ebr v\u00ebllan\u00eb dhe motr\u00ebn?\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>
Im v\u00eblla, dy vjet m\u00eb i madh se un\u00eb, sot nuk jeton m\u00eb. Duke qen\u00eb se distanca e mosh\u00ebs nuk ka qen\u00eb e madhe, ishim shum\u00eb t\u00eb lidhur me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. N\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb e kemi\u00a0kaluar s\u00eb bashku, p\u00ebr \u00e7do moment q\u00eb flas. Kur u rrit\u00ebm dhe nis\u00ebm t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb, edhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tona filluan t\u00eb ftohen. Kjo ishte\u00a0m\u00eb shum\u00eb me tim v\u00eblla, pasi mori tiparet e tim eti dhe u b\u00eb tep\u00ebr nacionalist. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia me motr\u00ebn vazhdoi e fort\u00eb deri n\u00eb momentin q\u00eb ajo u martua.<\/span><\/p>

M\u00eb tregoni pak p\u00ebr arsimimin tuaj.<\/strong><\/span>
Shkoll\u00ebn fillore e kam kryer n\u00eb fshat, 7-vje\u00e7aren e kam vazhduar n\u00eb nj\u00eb fshat tjet\u00ebr, Pojan. Larg\u00ebsia e shkoll\u00ebs nuk ma hoqi d\u00ebshir\u00ebn dhe pasionin p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar. Fitova burs\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00eb qytet, n\u00eb nj\u00eb nga shkollat m\u00eb t\u00eb mira t\u00eb Kor\u00e7\u00ebs, gjimnazi \u201cRaqi Qirinxhi\u201d. Ishte e gjat\u00eb rruga q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebja p\u00ebrdit\u00eb. Ama, isha duke realizuar nj\u00eb nga \u00ebndrrat e mia m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, t\u00eb studjoja. Gjimnazin e p\u00ebrfundova me rezultate t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyera. Por sapo mbusha mosh\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7, u thirra p\u00ebr t\u00eb kryer sh\u00ebrbimin e detyruar ushtarak. M\u00eb detyruan t\u00eb lija librat dhe fletoret dhe t\u00eb hidhja supeve pushk\u00ebn dhe pajimet ushtarake duke kryer detyr\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb repart ushtarak n\u00eb Gjad\u00ebr t\u00eb Lezh\u00ebs. Koha e kryerjes s\u00eb ushtris\u00eb m\u2019u duk p\u00ebrjet\u00ebsi, plot 3 vjet.<\/span><\/p>

Ishit m\u00eb Ki\u00e7oja i par\u00eb me \u00ebndrr\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb studiuar apo di\u00e7ka ndryshoi?
<\/strong><\/span>Mbas p\u00ebrfundimit t\u00eb ushtris\u00eb u ktheva m\u00eb i pjekur dhe burr\u00ebror n\u00eb fshatin e lindjes. D\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u00eb studiuar nuk ishte fikur dhe fatin, sado me vones\u00eb, e kisha p\u00ebrkrah. U miratua e drejta p\u00ebr t\u00eb vazhduar studimet n\u00eb\u00a0shkoll\u00ebn Pedagogjike, n\u00eb Elbasan.<\/span><\/p>

S\u00ebrish po zhvendoseshit, tani n\u00eb qytet tjet\u00ebr…<\/strong><\/span>
T\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb e ndjeva pafund. D\u00ebshira ime po b\u00ebhej realitet n\u00eb p\u00ebrballje me nj\u00eb qytet t\u00eb ri, me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb panjohur q\u00eb do t\u00eb m\u00eb lidhnin me p\u00ebrditshm\u00ebrin\u00eb. Kjo m\u00eb krijonte nj\u00ebfar\u00eb frike. Ishte vet\u00eb sistemi i till\u00eb q\u00eb ta krijonte at\u00eb ndjesi frike. Duhet t\u00eb kishe kujdes n\u00eb \u00e7do hap q\u00eb hidhje, me \u00e7do fjal\u00eb q\u00eb goja jote nxirrte. Im at\u00eb m\u00eb thoshte: \u201cN\u00ebse do t\u00eb jesh mik i vetes dhe armiku i askujt, d\u00ebgjo shum\u00eb dhe fol pak. Mos harro se edhe muret kan\u00eb vesh atje dhe kudo q\u00eb t\u00eb jesh!\u201d N\u00eb Elbasan u vendosa n\u00eb konviktin shtet\u00ebror. \u00c7do gj\u00eb shkonte shum\u00eb mir\u00eb, derisa nj\u00eb dit\u00eb, teksa kthehesha n\u00eb konvikt, marr vesh se shokun e dhom\u00ebs e kishin d\u00ebbuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb fshat, n\u00eb Lushnje. Kishte shprehur pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi ndaj partis\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>

E ndikoi kjo sjelljen tuaj?<\/strong><\/span>
Jasht\u00ebzakonisht. U mbylla edhe m\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete. I vetmi shok q\u00eb pata gjat\u00eb 2-vje\u00e7arit t\u00eb studimit, ishte libri. Ishte tep\u00ebr tensionuese p\u00ebr mua kur\u00a0bija pre e ndonj\u00eb fjale q\u00eb hidhnin shok\u00ebt e mi apo vet\u00eb pedagog\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb mendonim ne n\u00eb lidhje me regjimin.<\/span><\/p>

A kishit njohur ndonj\u00eb vajz\u00eb nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb?\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>
K\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje ma ka b\u00ebr\u00eb shpesh edhe bashk\u00ebshortja ime e ndjer\u00eb. Sa her\u00eb q\u00eb binte fjala m\u00eb thoshte apo m\u00eb sakt\u00eb m\u00eb thumbonte. Por jo, nuk kam pasur. At\u00ebkoh\u00eb libri ai ka qen\u00eb miku, i dashuri dhe familjari im.<\/span><\/p>

\u00c7\u2019b\u00ebhej me familjen tuaj, e vizitonit?<\/strong><\/span>
Kjo ka qen\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e trisht\u00eb,\u00a0 gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb studimin tim kam shkuar ve\u00e7 4 her\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Rruga kushtonte. Nuk kishte autobuz\u00eb apo furgon\u00eb. Udh\u00ebtonim me tren. Shpesh lek\u00ebt q\u00eb babai m\u00eb jepte p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00eb rrug\u00ebn nga qyteti i Kor\u00e7\u00ebs n\u00eb fshat, i shfryt\u00ebzoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb bler\u00eb libra.<\/span>
Mbas mbarimit t\u00eb shkoll\u00ebs, Ministria e Arsimit m\u00eb caktoi n\u00eb rrethin e Kor\u00e7\u00ebs dhe Komiteti Ekzekutiv i Rrethit me caktoi m\u00ebsues n\u00eb fshatin Maliq Opar, n\u00eb Komun\u00ebn e Moglic\u00ebs. Ishte nj\u00eb fshat i thell\u00eb dhe mjaft larg vendlindjes sime. U vendosa n\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrtes\u00eb n\u00eb fshat. Figura e profesorit n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb ishte mjaft e shenjt\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye isha gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs n\u00eb qend\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebmendjes. Mungesa q\u00eb fakulteti m\u00eb dha p\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket miqve m\u2019u plot\u00ebsua k\u00ebtu. Nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit ishin dhe shok\u00ebt e mi m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Familjar\u00ebt e mi mund t\u2019i vizitoja vet\u00ebm gjat\u00eb ver\u00ebs. Mbas dy vitesh e gjysm\u00eb m\u00eb zhvendosin n\u00eb shkoll\u00ebn e Gribecit, n\u00eb zon\u00ebn e Lozhanit. Ndjeva po t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn ngroht\u00ebsi p\u00ebr 3 vite q\u00eb punova. M\u00eb n\u00eb fund m\u00eb caktuan m\u00ebsues n\u00eb fshatin e Pojanit, af\u00ebr vendlindjes.<\/span><\/p>

Jam kurioze t\u00eb di kur dhe si jeni njohur me bashk\u00ebshorten tuaj?<\/strong><\/span>
Jemi njohur n\u00eb vitin 1964. Si gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt edhe ne nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb se kemi ndonj\u00eb njohje t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb. Njiheshim, por ishin prindrit tan\u00eb ata q\u00eb na prezantuan. Ishim nga e nj\u00ebjta mahall\u00eb. Tradita e donte q\u00eb t\u00eb vendosnin t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenjt\u00eb, e n\u00ebse ata binin dakort at\u00ebher\u00eb muhabeti merrte fund. Por, si i arsimuar q\u00eb isha, n\u00ebnkuptohej q\u00eb isha i aft\u00eb t\u00eb merrja vet\u00eb vendime. I shpreha babait mendimin tim n\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7eshtje dhe ai ra dakord me mua.<\/span>
N\u00eb sht\u00ebpi fjala ime d\u00ebgjohej shum\u00eb, madje edhe p\u00ebr banor\u00ebt e fshatit isha njeri i ve\u00e7ant\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu pra, n\u00eb fillim u prezantuan prind\u00ebrit dhe pastaj pat\u00ebm disa takime ve\u00e7 ne t\u00eb dy. Mbas nj\u00eb viti u martuam.<\/span><\/p>

Ndani me ne, ju lutem, disa momente nga ky hap i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj… <\/strong><\/span>
Ka qen\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr momentet m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtura t\u00eb miat. Po nisja nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb re me personin q\u00eb kishte z\u00ebn\u00eb vend n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn time. T\u00eb dy ishim t\u00eb lumtur q\u00eb do krijonim jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Nuk e harroj Lirik\u00ebn kur hyri n\u00eb pragun e der\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebndruar n\u00eb at\u00eb sht\u00ebpi p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb. Ishte ver\u00eb. Festa u zhvillua n\u00eb oborrin e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb. Dasma ishte e bollshme, ndryshe dasmat q\u00eb b\u00ebheshin at\u00eb koh\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>

Keni foto nga kjo ceremoni?<\/strong><\/span>
T\u00eb veshur nuse dhe dh\u00ebnd\u00ebr nuk kemi, pasi ishte e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb gjeje nj\u00eb aparat fotografik. Por kemi foto me rastin e lindjes s\u00eb binjak\u00ebve tan\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. Kam dashur q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e mi t\u00eb kishin kujtime t\u00eb bukura nga un\u00eb dhe t\u00eb shkolloheshin mir\u00eb. Ashtu si\u00e7 un\u00eb e mbaj mend tim at\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>

Keni ndikuar ju edhe n\u00eb zgjedhjet q\u00eb ata kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb?<\/strong><\/span>
Jo, asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk do ta b\u00ebja k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb. Kam pranuar \u00e7do vendim t\u00eb tyre dhe jam i lumtur q\u00eb kan\u00eb vendosur t\u00eb b\u00ebhen dikushi n\u00eb jet\u00eb. P\u00ebr mua e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme gjithmon\u00eb ka qen\u00eb q\u00eb ata ta dashuronin profesionin dhe t\u00eb g\u00ebzonin respekt aty ku do t\u00eb ishin.<\/span>
Djali i madh ka qen\u00eb ushtarak, kurse i vogli m\u00ebsues matematike. P\u00ebr djalin e madh kam qen\u00eb i shqet\u00ebsuar, sepse n\u00eb periudh\u00ebn q\u00eb ai kreu studimet ndodhi nd\u00ebrrimi i regjimeve. U plagos gjat\u00eb trazirave t\u00eb vitit 1997.<\/span><\/p>

Me \u00e7far\u00eb jeni marr\u00eb gjat\u00eb koh\u00ebs s\u00eb pensionit?<\/strong><\/span>
Ishte tep\u00ebr e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb person si un\u00eb q\u00eb isha rritur e ushqyer dita-dit\u00ebs me dashurin\u00eb p\u00ebr arsimin dhe edukimin e brezave t\u00eb rinj t\u00eb hiqja dor\u00eb, t\u00eb rrija duarkryq. S\u2019ishte n\u00eb karakterin tim. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye vendosa t\u2019i p\u00ebrkushtohesha rritjes t\u00eb blet\u00ebve q\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb tradit\u00eb n\u00eb familjen time, nga gjyshi im. K\u00ebt\u00eb pun\u00eb vazhdoj ta b\u00ebj\u00eb akoma edhe sot.\u00a0Nga ana tjet\u00ebr vazhdoj t\u2019i vizitoj vendet ku kam punuar, s\u00eb bashku me kolektivin tim dhe t\u00eb ruaj kontaktet me m\u00eb t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Anxhela Cuka | 04.02.2020 | nyje.al Udh\u00ebtim n\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebnN\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb titull \u201cUdh\u00ebtim n\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn\u201d, po botojm\u00eb nj\u00eb cik\u00ebl shkrimesh dhe bisedash nga disa t\u00eb rinj nga qytete t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb q\u00eb aspirojn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhen gazetar\u00eb. Jan\u00eb realizuar me prind\u00ebrit, gjysh\u00ebrit dhe t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit e tyre me q\u00ebllim njohjen e jet\u00ebs n\u00eb rreth t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb familjar po edhe njohjen e jet\u00ebs shoq\u00ebrore p\u00ebrgjat\u00eb shekullit t\u00eb kaluar. Si jetonin apo mbijetonin njer\u00ebzit tan\u00eb; si dashuroheshin apo detyroheshin t\u00eb zgjidhnin njeriun e jet\u00ebs; si e g\u00ebzonin jet\u00ebn dhe si i p\u00ebrballonin goditjet e saj; si ishin t\u00eb ndara rolet n\u00eb familje, dhe n\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri sa t\u00eb varf\u00ebr aq edhe t\u00eb kontrolluar si\u00e7 ishte shoq\u00ebria shqiptare n\u00eb vitet 1945-1990?Jan\u00eb rr\u00ebfime q\u00eb iu tregojn\u00eb t\u00eb rinjve se e shkuara e paraardh\u00ebsve, n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb apo n\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen e secilit dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen e nj\u00eb vendi t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb. E drejta p\u00ebr t\u2019u shkolluar dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb ushtruar profesionin e d\u00ebshiruar n\u00ebn komuniz\u00ebm, nuk ka qen\u00eb shpeshher\u00eb zgjedhje e lir\u00eb. Edhe at\u00ebher\u00eb kur individi q\u00ebllonte n\u00eb shenj\u00eb, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr fat p\u00ebrgatiste sistemi p\u00ebr t\u00eb: e largonte nga vendlindja dhe t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit. M\u00ebsuesi sh\u00ebtit\u00ebs Ki\u00e7o\u00a0Bajlozi \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebsues n\u00eb pension. Historia e tij edhe pse nuk ka n\u00eb t\u00eb asgj\u00eb t\u00eb pazakont\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb e ngjashme me historin\u00eb e shum\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb do duhej t\u00eb largoheshin nga vendlindja p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar atje \u201cku kishte nevoj\u00eb atdheu\u201d. Si d\u00ebshmitar i dy sistemeve t\u00eb ndryshme politike, \u201cm\u00ebsuesi sh\u00ebtit\u00ebs\u201d ndan me ne disa momente t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, p\u00ebr shembull, f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb. Ishte nj\u00eb koh\u00eb tep\u00ebr e trazuar\u00a0dhe me mungesa, megjithat\u00eb f\u00ebmija ishte falenderues ndaj prindit.A mund t\u00eb prezantoheni p\u00ebr lexuesin ton\u00eb?\u00a0Po, sigurisht. Quhem Ki\u00e7o Bajlozi, kam lindur n\u00eb 5 gusht t\u00eb vitit 1938, n\u00eb fshatin\u00a0Pendavinj t\u00eb Kor\u00e7\u00ebs.Nga \u00e7far\u00eb familje vini?Familja jon\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebhej nga dy prind\u00ebrit dhe 3 f\u00ebmij\u00eb, 2 v\u00ebllez\u00ebr dhe 1 mot\u00ebr. Edhe pse babai im ka\u00a0pasur mentalitet pak m\u00eb t\u00eb hapur se banor\u00ebt apo personat e tjer\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb kam njohur, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri ka qen\u00eb sistemi ai q\u00eb na ndrydhte, si ne edhe prind\u00ebrit tan\u00eb. Por, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri g\u00ebzonim harmoni n\u00eb familje dhe respekt. N\u00ebna dhe babai p\u00ebrpiqeshin q\u00eb t\u00eb respektonin figur\u00ebn ton\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrore, ashtu si\u00e7 ne p\u00ebrpiqeshim t\u2019i kuptonim ata kur silleshin t\u00eb sert\u00eb me ne. Me cilin nga prind\u00ebrit keni qen\u00eb m\u00eb i lidhur?\u00a0Kam qen\u00eb shum\u00eb i lidhur me n\u00ebn\u00ebn. Figura e babait n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb ka qen\u00eb shum\u00eb autoritare dhe shumic\u00ebn e koh\u00ebs si un\u00eb, ashtu edhe v\u00ebllai dhe motra ndrydheshim q\u00eb t\u2019i shpreheshim babait. Por edhe me babain tim kam kujtime mjaft t\u00eb mira. Kalonim koh\u00eb s\u00eb bashku sepse ishte ai q\u00eb m\u00eb shoq\u00ebronte gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb.Dhe si ka qen\u00eb kjo f\u00ebmij\u00ebria juaj?\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Na mungonin gj\u00ebrat m\u00eb elementare, veshmbathjet dhe ushqimi, edhe pse familja jon\u00eb konsideroheshe familje e pasur, ish-bejler\u00eb. Jetonim me gjysh\u00ebrit dhe v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit e babait. Gjithsej n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi b\u00ebheshim 17 vet\u00eb, 9 prej t\u00eb cil\u00ebve ishin f\u00ebmij\u00eb. E mbaj mend si sot, kur mamaja na i mbante fshehur k\u00ebpuc\u00ebt e mira\u00a0q\u00eb i p\u00ebrdornim ve\u00e7 p\u00ebr sebepe. Ishin k\u00ebpuc\u00eb q\u00eb i ndanim s\u00eb bashku me tim v\u00eblla, ashtu si\u00e7 ndanim edhe \u00e7do veshmbathje. Edhe p\u00ebr sebepet q\u00eb b\u00ebheshin, si \u00e7do f\u00ebmij\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb grindeshim, se kush do t\u00eb shkonte dhe kush do t\u00eb rrinte n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Ishim me fat, q\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00ebrin nga ne t\u00eb dy e zinte lapsi nj\u00ebher\u00eb po dhe nj\u00ebher\u00eb jo, q\u00eb t\u00eb shkonte. Nd\u00ebrsa motra rrinte gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.E mbaj mend t\u00eb trazuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb, megjithat\u00eb ishim t\u00eb lumtur dhe falenderues ndaj prind\u00ebrve, gj\u00eb q\u00eb tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe rinia e sotme nuk e shoh. T\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb do t\u00eb thoshit edhe p\u00ebr v\u00ebllan\u00eb dhe motr\u00ebn?\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Im v\u00eblla, dy vjet m\u00eb i madh se un\u00eb, sot nuk jeton m\u00eb. Duke qen\u00eb se distanca e mosh\u00ebs nuk ka qen\u00eb e madhe, ishim shum\u00eb t\u00eb lidhur me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. N\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb e kemi\u00a0kaluar s\u00eb bashku, p\u00ebr \u00e7do moment q\u00eb flas. Kur u rrit\u00ebm dhe nis\u00ebm t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb, edhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tona filluan t\u00eb ftohen. Kjo ishte\u00a0m\u00eb shum\u00eb me tim v\u00eblla, pasi mori tiparet e tim eti dhe u b\u00eb tep\u00ebr nacionalist. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia me motr\u00ebn vazhdoi e fort\u00eb deri n\u00eb momentin q\u00eb ajo u martua. M\u00eb tregoni pak p\u00ebr arsimimin tuaj.Shkoll\u00ebn fillore e kam kryer n\u00eb fshat, 7-vje\u00e7aren e kam vazhduar n\u00eb nj\u00eb fshat tjet\u00ebr, Pojan. Larg\u00ebsia e shkoll\u00ebs nuk ma hoqi d\u00ebshir\u00ebn dhe pasionin p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar. Fitova burs\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00eb qytet, n\u00eb nj\u00eb nga shkollat m\u00eb t\u00eb mira t\u00eb Kor\u00e7\u00ebs, gjimnazi \u201cRaqi Qirinxhi\u201d. Ishte e gjat\u00eb rruga q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebja p\u00ebrdit\u00eb. Ama, isha duke realizuar nj\u00eb nga \u00ebndrrat e mia m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, t\u00eb studjoja. Gjimnazin e p\u00ebrfundova me rezultate t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyera. Por sapo mbusha mosh\u00ebn 18 vje\u00e7, u thirra p\u00ebr t\u00eb kryer sh\u00ebrbimin e detyruar ushtarak. M\u00eb detyruan t\u00eb lija librat dhe fletoret dhe t\u00eb hidhja supeve pushk\u00ebn dhe pajimet ushtarake duke kryer detyr\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb repart ushtarak n\u00eb Gjad\u00ebr t\u00eb Lezh\u00ebs. Koha e kryerjes s\u00eb ushtris\u00eb m\u2019u duk p\u00ebrjet\u00ebsi, plot 3 vjet. Ishit m\u00eb Ki\u00e7oja i par\u00eb me \u00ebndrr\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb studiuar apo di\u00e7ka ndryshoi?Mbas p\u00ebrfundimit t\u00eb ushtris\u00eb u ktheva m\u00eb i pjekur dhe burr\u00ebror n\u00eb fshatin e lindjes. D\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u00eb studiuar nuk ishte fikur dhe fatin, sado me vones\u00eb, e kisha p\u00ebrkrah. U miratua e drejta p\u00ebr t\u00eb vazhduar studimet n\u00eb\u00a0shkoll\u00ebn Pedagogjike, n\u00eb Elbasan. S\u00ebrish po zhvendoseshit, tani n\u00eb qytet tjet\u00ebr…T\u00eb them t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn k\u00ebt\u00eb e ndjeva pafund. D\u00ebshira ime po b\u00ebhej realitet n\u00eb p\u00ebrballje me nj\u00eb qytet t\u00eb ri, me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb panjohur q\u00eb do t\u00eb m\u00eb lidhnin me p\u00ebrditshm\u00ebrin\u00eb. Kjo m\u00eb krijonte nj\u00ebfar\u00eb frike. Ishte vet\u00eb sistemi i till\u00eb q\u00eb ta krijonte at\u00eb ndjesi frike. Duhet t\u00eb kishe kujdes n\u00eb \u00e7do hap q\u00eb hidhje, me \u00e7do fjal\u00eb q\u00eb goja jote nxirrte. Im at\u00eb m\u00eb thoshte: \u201cN\u00ebse do t\u00eb jesh mik i vetes dhe armiku i askujt, d\u00ebgjo shum\u00eb dhe fol pak. Mos harro se edhe muret kan\u00eb vesh atje dhe kudo q\u00eb t\u00eb jesh!\u201d N\u00eb Elbasan u vendosa n\u00eb konviktin shtet\u00ebror. \u00c7do gj\u00eb shkonte shum\u00eb mir\u00eb, derisa nj\u00eb dit\u00eb, teksa kthehesha n\u00eb konvikt, marr vesh 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