{"id":28113,"date":"2025-03-16T11:32:56","date_gmt":"2025-03-16T10:32:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/?p=28113"},"modified":"2025-03-16T11:47:36","modified_gmt":"2025-03-16T10:47:36","slug":"perdorimi-i-nje-objekti-dhe-marredhenia-permes-identifikimesh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/perdorimi-i-nje-objekti-dhe-marredhenia-permes-identifikimesh\/","title":{"rendered":"P\u00ebrdorimi i nj\u00eb objekti dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia p\u00ebrmes identifikimesh"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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P\u00ebrdorimi i nj\u00eb objekti dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia p\u00ebrmes identifikimesh\n<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kapitull propozoj t\u00eb sjell p\u00ebr diskutim iden\u00eb e p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb objekti. Tema shoqe e mar\u00ebdh\u00ebnies me objektet m\u00eb duket mua se ka marr\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen ton\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb. Ideja e p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb objekti nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb, ama, shqyrtuar aq shum\u00eb dhe mund madje t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb studiuar specifikisht.<\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bKy punim mbi p\u00ebrdorimin e nj\u00eb objekti buron prej p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs time klinike dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrvijim i drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb i zhvillimit tim t\u00eb posa\u00e7\u00ebm. Nuk mund t\u00eb marr p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebqen\u00eb, sigurisht, q\u00eb m\u00ebnyra si jan\u00eb zhvilluar idet\u00eb e mia \u00ebsht\u00eb ndjekur edhe nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, por do doja t\u00eb vija n\u00eb pah se ka patur nj\u00eb sekuenc\u00eb dhe rendi q\u00eb mund t\u00eb gjendet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb sekuenc\u00eb i p\u00ebrket evoluimit t\u00eb pun\u00ebs sime.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200b\u00c7far\u00eb kam p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb shkrim \u00ebsht\u00eb tejet e thjesht\u00eb. Megjith\u00ebse kjo vjen prej p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs sime psikoanalitike, nuk do t\u00eb thoja se do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb kishte ardhur nga p\u00ebrvoja ime psikoanalitike e dy dekadave m\u00eb par\u00eb, sepse asokohe nuk do t\u00eb kisha patur teknik\u00ebn q\u00eb do b\u00ebnte t\u00eb mundur l\u00ebvizjet e transferenc\u00ebs q\u00eb dua t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruaj. P\u00ebr shembull, vet\u00ebm n\u00eb vitet e fundit jam b\u00ebr\u00eb i aft\u00eb t\u00eb pres \u2013 t\u00eb pres p\u00ebr evolucionin e natyrsh\u00ebm t\u00eb transferenc\u00ebs q\u00eb del prej besimit n\u00eb rritje t\u00eb pacientit n\u00eb teknik\u00ebn dhe mjedisin psikoanalitik, si dhe t\u00eb shmang trazimin a nd\u00ebrprerjen e k\u00ebtij procesi t\u00eb natyrsh\u00ebm duke b\u00ebr\u00eb interpretime. Vlen t\u00eb v\u00ebrehet se po flas p\u00ebr b\u00ebrjen e interpretimeve dhe jo p\u00ebr interpretimet si t\u00eb tilla. M\u00eb lemerit t\u00eb mendoj se sa ndryshim t\u00eb thell\u00eb kam penguar ose kam vonuar n\u00eb pacient\u00eb <\/span><\/span>t\u00eb nj\u00eb kategorie t\u00eb caktuar klasifikimi<\/span><\/span> me nevoj\u00ebn time personale p\u00ebr t\u00eb interpretuar. Vet\u00ebm sikur t\u00eb mund t\u00eb prisnim, pacienti arrin n\u00eb t\u00eb kuptuarit n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb krijuese dhe me g\u00ebzim t\u00eb madh dhe tani un\u00eb e g\u00ebzoj k\u00ebt\u00eb g\u00ebzim m\u00eb shum\u00eb se \u00e7\u2019kisha zakon t\u00eb g\u00ebzoja ndjesin\u00eb q\u00eb kam qen\u00eb i zgjuar e i shkath\u00ebt. Mendoj se un\u00eb [tani] interpretoj kryesisht p\u00ebr t\u2019i b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb ditur pacientit caqet e t\u00eb kuptuarit tim. Parimi \u00ebsht\u00eb se pacienti dhe vet\u00ebm pacienti i ka p\u00ebrgjigjet. Ne mundet ose jo t\u00eb jemi n\u00eb gjendje ta aft\u00ebsojm\u00eb pacientin t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshij\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb dihet, apo t\u00eb b\u00ebhet i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb, me pranueshm\u00ebri.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bN\u00eb kontrast me k\u00ebt\u00eb, vjen puna e interpretimit q\u00eb analisti duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb, \u00e7ka e dallon analiz\u00ebn nga vet-analiza. Ky interpretim nga ana e analistit, n\u00ebse do t\u00eb ket\u00eb efekt, duhet t\u00eb nd\u00ebrlidhet me aft\u00ebsin\u00eb e pacientit <\/span><\/span>p\u00ebr ta vendosur analistin jasht\u00eb zon\u00ebs s\u00eb dukurive subjektive<\/span><\/span>. Kemi t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb k\u00ebshtu me aft\u00ebsin\u00eb e pacientit p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur analistin, \u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb tema e k\u00ebtij shkrimi. N\u00eb m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnie, ashtu sikurse n\u00eb ushqimin e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije, kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur objekte merret si i mir\u00ebqen\u00eb, por n\u00eb pun\u00ebn ton\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme p\u00ebr ne q\u00eb t\u00eb merremi me zhvillimin dhe themelimin e kapacitetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur objekte dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb pikasur paaft\u00ebsin\u00eb e nj\u00eb pacienti p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur objekte, ku kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb fakt.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bN\u00eb analiz\u00ebn e tipit t\u00eb rastit kufitar kemi shansin t\u00eb vrojtojm\u00eb dukurit\u00eb e holla q\u00eb na japin tregues drejt nj\u00eb t\u00eb kuptuari t\u00eb gjendjeve v\u00ebrtet skizofrene. Me termin \u201crast kufitar\u201d dua t\u00eb them at\u00eb lloj rasti n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin b\u00ebrthama e turbullimit t\u00eb pacientit \u00ebsht\u00eb psikotike, por pacienti ka mjaftuesh\u00ebm organizim psiko-neurotik sa t\u00eb jet\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb paraqes\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7rregullim psiko-neurotik ose psiko-somatik kur ankthi qendror psikotik k\u00ebrc\u00ebnon t\u00eb shp\u00ebrthej\u00eb n\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb pap\u00ebrpunuar. N\u00eb raste t\u00eb tilla, psikoanalisti mund t\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunoj\u00eb papandehur p\u00ebr vite me nevoj\u00ebn e pacientit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb psiko-neurotik (si p\u00ebrkund\u00ebr t\u00eb qenurit i marr\u00eb) dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u trajtuar si psiko-neurotik. Analiza shkon mir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur. E vetmja e met\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se analiza nuk mbaron kurr\u00eb. Mund t\u00eb terminohet a t\u2019i jepet fund dhe pacienti madje mund t\u00eb mobilizoj\u00eb nj\u00eb vete t\u00eb rrem\u00eb psiko-neurotike p\u00ebr q\u00ebllimin e p\u00ebrfundimit dhe t\u00eb sh<\/span><\/span>pr<\/span><\/span>eh\u00eb falenderim e mir\u00ebnjohje. Por, n\u00eb fakt, pacient<\/span><\/span>i<\/span><\/span> e di se nuk ka patur ndryshim n\u00eb gjendjen e n\u00ebndheshme (psikotike) dhe <\/span><\/span>se analisti dhe pacienti ia kan\u00eb dal\u00eb t\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunojn\u00eb tin\u00ebz p\u00ebr t\u00eb sjell\u00eb nj\u00eb d\u00ebshtim. Edhe ky d\u00ebshtim mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb vler\u00eb n\u00ebse t\u00eb dy, analist e pacient, e njohin d\u00ebshtimin. Pacienti \u00ebsht\u00eb <\/span><\/span>rritur n\u00eb mosh\u00eb<\/span><\/span> dhe shanset e vdekjes nga ndonj\u00eb aksident apo s\u00ebmundje jan\u00eb rritur<\/span><\/span> po ashtu<\/span><\/span>, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasja aktuale <\/span><\/span>mund <\/span><\/span>t\u00eb shmanget. P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, kaluam mir\u00eb p\u00ebr sa zgjati. N\u00ebse psikoanaliza do mund t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb jetese, at\u00ebher\u00eb nj\u00eb trajtim i till\u00eb mund t\u00eb thuhet se ka b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb supozohej t\u00eb b\u00ebnte. Por psikoanaliza nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb jetese. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne shpresojm\u00eb q\u00eb pacient\u00ebt tan\u00eb t\u00eb mbarojn\u00eb me ne, t\u00eb na harrojn\u00eb dhe q\u00eb ata do t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb te vet\u00eb t\u00eb jetuarit terapin\u00eb q\u00eb ka kuptim. Edhe pse shkruajm\u00eb artikuj p\u00ebr k\u00ebto raste kufitare, ne shqet\u00ebsohemi s\u00eb brendshmi kur marr\u00ebzia q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb aty mbetet e pazbuluar dhe pa u takuar. Kam provuar ta shtroj k\u00ebt\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb artikull mbi klasifikimin [CW 5:5:5].<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bNdoshta \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme t\u2019i bie ca t\u00ebrthor p\u00ebr t\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb pik\u00ebpamjen time mbi dallimin midis marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies me objektin dhe p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb objektit. N\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien me objektin, subjekti lejon q\u00eb t\u00eb ndodhin ndryshime t\u00eb caktuara brenda vetes, t\u00eb nj\u00eb lloji q\u00eb na ka b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb shpikim termin \u201ckateksis\u201d. Objekti ka marr\u00eb kuptim. Mekanizmat e projektimit dhe identifikimit kan\u00eb funksionuar dhe subjekti zbrazet n\u00eb at\u00eb mas\u00eb q\u00eb di\u00e7ka nga subjekti gjendet n\u00eb objekt, megjith\u00ebse pasurohet me ndjenja. K\u00ebto ndryshime shoq\u00ebrohen me nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshirjes fizike (sado t\u00eb vog\u00ebl) drejt eksitimit, n\u00eb drejtim t\u00eb kulmit funksional t\u00eb nj\u00eb orgazme. (N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kontekst, un\u00eb q\u00ebllimisht e l\u00eb m\u00ebnjan\u00eb referenc\u00ebn ndaj aspektit t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies [objektuale] si ushtrim n\u00eb identifikime t\u00eb kryq-nd\u00ebrsjellta. Kjo duhet t\u00eb mos futet k\u00ebtu sepse i p\u00ebrket nj\u00eb faze zhvillimi q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e m\u00ebpasme dhe jo e m\u00ebparshme ndaj faz\u00ebs s\u00eb zhvillimit q\u00eb po merrem n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb punim, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb, faza ku l\u00ebvizet nga mbyllja n\u00eb vete dhe [ku subjekti \u00ebsht\u00eb] n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me objekte subjektive, n\u00eb sfer\u00ebn e p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb objekteve.)<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bMarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia me objektin \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb e subjektit q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruhet n\u00eb terma t\u00eb subjektit si ve\u00e7mas, i izoluar. Megjithat\u00eb, kur flas p\u00ebr p\u00ebrdorimin e nj\u00eb objekti, e marr t\u00eb mir\u00ebqen\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien me objektin dhe shtoj ve\u00e7ori t\u00eb reja q\u00eb p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb natyr\u00ebn dhe sjelljen e objektit. P\u00ebr shembull, objekti, n\u00ebse do t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret, duhet medoemos t\u00eb jet\u00eb real n\u00eb kuptimin e t\u00eb qenurit pjes\u00eb e realitetit t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, jo nj\u00eb grumbull projeksionesh. \u00cbsht\u00eb kjo, mendoj un\u00eb, q\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebn dallimin e p\u00ebrbotsh\u00ebm q\u00eb ekziston midis marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies dhe p\u00ebrdorimit.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

N\u00ebse kam t\u00eb drejt\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb rrjedh se t\u00eb diskutohet p\u00ebr tem\u00ebn e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies \u00ebsht\u00eb ushtrim shum\u00eb m\u00eb i leht\u00eb p\u00ebr analist\u00ebt sesa diskutimi i p\u00ebrdorimit, pasiq\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia mund t\u00eb shqyrtohet si nj\u00eb dukuri e subjektit dhe psikoanaliz\u00ebs i p\u00eblqen gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb eliminoj\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb faktor\u00ebt q\u00eb jan\u00eb mjedisor\u00eb, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se n\u00eb mas\u00ebn q\u00eb mjedisi mund t\u00eb mendohet n\u00eb terma t\u00eb mekanizmave projektues. Por n\u00eb shqyrtimin e p\u00ebrdorimit nuk ka shp\u00ebtim: analisti duhet t\u00eb marr\u00eb parasysh natyr\u00ebn e objektit, jo si nj\u00eb projeksion, por si nj\u00eb gj\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete.<\/span><\/span><\/p>

P\u00ebr momentin, mund ta l\u00eb me kaq: se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruhet n\u00eb terma t\u00eb subjektit individual dhe se p\u00ebrdorimi nuk mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruhet p\u00ebrve\u00e7se n\u00eb terma t\u00eb pranimit t\u00eb ekzistenc\u00ebs s\u00eb pavarur t\u00eb objektit, t\u00eb vetis\u00eb s\u00eb tij i t\u00eb pasurit qen\u00eb aty gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs. Do t\u00eb shihni se pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebto probleme jan\u00eb ato q\u00eb na shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb kur k\u00ebqyrim zon\u00ebn ku jam p\u00ebrpjekur t\u00eb t\u00ebrheq v\u00ebmendjen n\u00eb pun\u00ebn time mbi ato q\u00eb i kam quajtur dukuri kalimtare.<\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bPor ky ndryshim nuk vjen automatikisht, me vet\u00ebm procesin e maturimit. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb detaj dua t\u00eb merrem.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bN\u00eb terma klinik\u00eb: dy foshnja po ushqehen me gji. Nj\u00ebri ushqehet me veten, pasi gjoksi dhe foshnja nuk jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb ende (p\u00ebr foshnj\u00ebn) dukuri t\u00eb ndara. Tjetri ushqehet nga nj\u00eb burim p\u00ebrpos-meje, ose nga nj\u00eb objekt q\u00eb mund t\u2019i jepet nj\u00eb trajtim i shkujdesur<\/span><\/span>,<\/span><\/span> me<\/span><\/span> pa teklif [<\/span><\/span>cavalier<\/span><\/span>] pa patur<\/span><\/span> efekt mbi foshnj\u00ebn, n\u00ebse ky objekt nuk kund\u00ebrsulmon. N\u00ebnat, sikurse analist\u00ebt, mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb mira mjaftuesh\u00ebm ose jo; disa munden dhe disa nuk munden ta ndihmojn\u00eb foshnj\u00ebn t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb prej marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies matan\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrdorim.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bDua t\u00eb rikujtoj k\u00ebtu se ve\u00e7oria thelb\u00ebsore n\u00eb konceptin e objekteve dhe dukurive kalimtare (sipas paraqitjes sime t\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjes) \u00ebsht\u00eb <\/span><\/span>paradoksi dhe pranimi i paradoksit<\/span><\/span>: foshnja krijon objektin, por objekti ishte aty n\u00eb pritje p\u00ebr t\u2019u krijuar e p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb objekt i katektuar, i investuar me kuptim. Jam p\u00ebrpjekur t\u00eb t\u00ebrheq v\u00ebmendjen n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb aspekt t\u00eb dukurive kalimtare duke pohuar se n\u00eb rregullat e loj\u00ebs t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e dim\u00eb se nuk do ta sfidojm\u00eb kurr\u00eb foshnj\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb nxjerr\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje ndaj pyetjes: a e krijove k\u00ebt\u00eb apo e gjete?<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bTani jam gati t\u00eb shkoj direkt n\u00eb pohimin e tez\u00ebs sime. Duket sikur kam frik\u00eb t\u00eb shkoj aty, a thua se kam frik\u00eb q\u00eb, pasi teza t\u00eb jet\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb, q\u00ebllimi i komunikimit tim kryhet, sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00ebmend tejet e thjesht\u00eb.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bP\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur nj\u00eb objekt<\/span><\/span>,<\/span><\/span> subjekt<\/span><\/span>i<\/span><\/span> duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb zhvilluar nj\u00eb <\/span><\/span>kapacitet<\/span><\/span> p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur objekte. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e kalimit drejt parimit t\u00eb realitetit.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bKy kapacitet nuk mund t\u00eb thuhet se \u00ebsht\u00eb i lindur, e as mundet zhvillimi i tij n\u00eb nj\u00eb individ t\u00eb merret i mir\u00ebqen\u00eb. Zhvillimi i kapacitetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur nj\u00eb objekt \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr shembull i procesit t\u00eb maturimit si di\u00e7ka q\u00eb varet nga nj\u00eb mjedis leht\u00ebsues.1<\/sup><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bP\u00ebr pasoj\u00eb mund t\u00eb thuhet se n\u00eb fillim \u00ebsht\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia me objektin, pastaj n\u00eb fund \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrdorimi i objektit; aty midis, megjithat\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, ndoshta, n\u00eb zhvillimin njer\u00ebzor; ose m\u00eb i zorshmi prej d\u00ebshtimeve t\u00eb hershme q\u00eb lypin derman. Kjo gj\u00eb q\u00eb ndodhet midis marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies dhe p\u00ebrdorimit \u00ebsht\u00eb vendosja prej subjektit e objektit jasht\u00eb zon\u00ebs s\u00eb kontrollit t\u00eb plotfuqish\u00ebm t\u00eb subjektit; pra, perceptimi nga subjekti i objektit si dukuri e jashtme, jo si entitet i projektuar, n\u00eb fakt njohja e tij si nj\u00eb entitet m\u00eb vete.<\/span><\/span><\/span>2<\/span><\/sup><\/p>

\u200bKy ndryshim (prej marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies te p\u00ebrdorimi) do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se subjekti shkat\u00ebrron objektin. Prej k\u00ebtu mund t\u00eb argumentohet nga nj\u00eb filozof kolltuku se p\u00ebr rrjedhoj\u00eb n\u00eb praktik\u00eb nuk ka gj\u00eb t\u00eb atill\u00eb si p\u00ebrdorimi i nj\u00eb objekti: n\u00ebse objekti \u00ebsht\u00eb i jasht\u00ebm, at\u00ebher\u00eb objekti shkat\u00ebrrohet prej subjektit. N\u00eb dalt\u00eb ama filozofi prej kolltukut t\u00eb tij dhe t\u00eb ulet n\u00eb dysheme me pacientin e tij, ai do t\u00eb zbuloj\u00eb se ekziston nj\u00eb pozicion i nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebm. Me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, ai do t\u00eb zbuloj\u00eb se pasi \u201csubjekti [futet] n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me objektin\u201d vjen \u201csubjekti shkat\u00ebrron objektin\u201d (teksa ky b\u00ebhet i jasht\u00ebm); dhe pastaj ndoshta vjen \u201c<\/span><\/span>objekti i mbijeton<\/span><\/span> shkat\u00ebrrimit prej subjektit\u201d. Por mundet ose jo t\u00eb ket\u00eb mbijetes\u00eb. Nj\u00eb ve\u00e7ori e re shfaqet k\u00ebshtu n\u00eb teorin\u00eb e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies me objekte. Subjekti i thot\u00eb objektit: \u201cT\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrova\u201d dhe objekti \u00ebsht\u00eb aty t\u00eb marr\u00eb komunikimin. Tani e tutje subjekti thot\u00eb: \u201cHej objekt!\u201d \u201cT\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrova.\u201d \u201cT\u00eb dua.\u201d \u201cTi ke vler\u00eb p\u00ebr mua p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb mbijetes\u00ebs t\u00ebnde ndaj shkat\u00ebrrimit q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebra.\u201d \u201cTeksa t\u00eb dua, jam t\u00ebr\u00eb koh\u00ebn duke t\u00eb t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar n\u00eb <\/span><\/span>fantazi<\/span><\/span> (t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshme).\u201d K\u00ebtu fantazia z\u00eb fill p\u00ebr individin. Subjekti tani mund t\u00eb <\/span><\/span>p\u00ebrdor\u00eb<\/span><\/span> objektin q\u00eb ka mbijetuar. Me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi mbetet p\u00ebr t\u00eb theksuar se subjekti nuk e shkat\u00ebrron objektin thjesht sepse objekti vendoset jasht\u00eb zon\u00ebs s\u00eb kontrollit t\u00eb plotfuqish\u00ebm. Po aq dometh\u00ebn\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb kjo t\u00eb thuhet anasjelltasi dhe t\u00eb pohohet se \u00ebsht\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrimi i objektit q\u00eb e vendos objektin jasht\u00eb zon\u00ebs s\u00eb kontrollit t\u00eb plotfuqish\u00ebm t\u00eb subjektit. K\u00ebsisoj objekti zhvillon pik\u00ebrisht autonomin\u00eb dhe jet\u00ebn e tij dhe (n\u00ebse mbijeton) i jep kontributin e vet, sipas vetive t\u00eb tij, subjektit.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bMe fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb mbijetes\u00ebs s\u00eb objektit, subjekti ka mund\u00ebsi tani t\u00eb ket\u00eb nisur t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e objekteve, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb subjekti ka plot\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrfituar; por \u00e7mimi duhet t\u00eb paguhet, pra duke pranuar shkat\u00ebrrimin n\u00eb vazhdim e sip\u00ebr n\u00eb fantazi t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshme n\u00eb lidhje me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien me objekte.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bLejom\u00ebni ta p\u00ebrs\u00ebris. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pozicion q\u00eb mund t\u00eb mb\u00ebrrihet nga individi n\u00eb stadet e hershme t\u00eb rritjes emocionale vet\u00ebm p\u00ebrmes mbijetes\u00ebs aktuale t\u00eb objekteve t\u00eb katektuara [t\u00eb ngarkuara psikikisht] q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb n\u00eb proces p\u00ebr t\u2019u shkat\u00ebrruar sepse real\u00eb, duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb real\u00eb sepse t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar (duke qen\u00eb t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruesh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb shp\u00ebrdorsh\u00ebm [q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jesh dor\u00ebl\u00ebshuar ndaj tyre, t\u00eb shpenzuesh\u00ebm]).<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bNga tani e tutje, me arritjen e k\u00ebtij stadi, mekanizmat projektues vijn\u00eb n\u00eb ndihm\u00eb n\u00eb aktin e <\/span><\/span>v\u00ebnies re t\u00eb \u00e7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb aty<\/span><\/span>, por ato nuk jan\u00eb <\/span><\/span>arsyeja pse objekti \u00ebsht\u00eb aty<\/span><\/span>. P\u00ebr mendimin tim, ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb largim prej teoris\u00eb q\u00eb priret kah nj\u00eb konceptim i realitetit t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm vet\u00ebm n\u00eb terma t\u00eb mekanizmave projektues t\u00eb individit.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bTani e kam b\u00ebr\u00eb pohimin tim [t\u00eb tez\u00ebs] pothuaj n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi. Jo tamam, megjithat\u00eb, sepse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur p\u00ebr mua t\u00eb marr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebqen\u00eb pranimin e faktit q\u00eb impulsi i par\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e subjektit me objektin (objektivisht t\u00eb perceptuar, jo subje<\/span><\/span>k<\/span><\/span>tiv) \u00ebsht\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrues. (M\u00eb her\u00ebt p\u00ebrdora termin \u201ci shkujdesur\u201d<\/span><\/span> ose \u201c<\/span><\/span>me <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a>pa teklif\u201d<\/span><\/span> [<\/span><\/span>cavalier<\/span><\/span>] n\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb lexuesit nj\u00eb shans p\u00ebr t\u00eb imagjinuar di\u00e7ka n\u00eb at\u00eb pik\u00eb<\/span><\/span>,<\/span><\/span> pa i treguar tep\u00ebr qart\u00eb udh\u00ebn).<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bPostulati qendror n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb tez\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se, aty ku subjekti nuk e shkat\u00ebrron objektin subjektiv (materialin projektiv), shkat\u00ebrrimi e nxjerr kok\u00ebn e vet dhe b\u00ebhet tipar qendror n\u00eb pik\u00ebn ku objekti perceptohet objektivisht, ka autonomi dhe i p\u00ebrket realitetit \u201ct\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt\u201d. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb pjesa e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb e tez\u00ebs sime, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn p\u00ebr mua.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bN\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi kuptohet se parimi i realitetit e<\/span><\/span> fut dhe<\/span><\/span> p\u00ebrfshin individin n\u00eb zem\u00ebrim dhe shkat\u00ebrrim reaktiv, por teza ime \u00ebsht\u00eb se shkat\u00ebrrimi luan rolin e vet n\u00eb b\u00ebrjen e realitetit, duke e vendosur objektin jasht\u00eb vetes. Q\u00eb kjo t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb, nevojiten kushte t\u00eb favorshme. <\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje e shqyrtimit t\u00eb parimit t\u00eb realitetit t\u00eb ngritur n\u00eb fuqi t\u00eb disat\u00eb. Sipas pik\u00ebpamjes sime, jemi mjaft t\u00eb familjarizuar me ndryshimin n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin mekanizmat projektues e aft\u00ebsojn\u00eb subjektin t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb njoh\u00eb objektin. Kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb me pretendimn se objekti ekziston p\u00ebr subjektin p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb pun\u00ebs s\u00eb mekanizmave projektues t\u00eb subjektit. N\u00eb fillim vrojtuesi p\u00ebrdor fjal\u00eb q\u00eb ngjajn\u00eb se vlejn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dyja idet\u00eb n\u00eb bash t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb, por n\u00ebn shqyrtim t\u00eb kujdessh\u00ebm shohim se dy idet\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb aspak identike. Pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebtu e orientojm\u00eb studimin ton\u00eb.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bN\u00eb pik\u00ebn e zhvillimit q\u00eb po shqyrtojm\u00eb, subjekti \u00ebsht\u00eb duke krijuar objektin n\u00eb kuptimin e gjetjes s\u00eb vet\u00eb jasht\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe duhet shtuar k\u00ebtu se kjo p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb varet nga kapaciteti i objektit p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbijetuar. (\u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb \u201cmbijetesa\u201d, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kontekst, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb mos kund\u00ebrsulmoj\u00eb\u201d, \u201ct\u00eb mos kthej\u00eb hakun\u201d.) N\u00ebse k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra po ndodhin n\u00eb nj\u00eb analiz\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb analisti, teknika analitike dhe mjedisi analitik, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb vijn\u00eb n\u00eb shprehje si mbijetes\u00eb apo jo ndaj sulmeve shkat\u00ebrruese t\u00eb pacientit. Kjo veprimtari shkat\u00ebrruese \u00ebsht\u00eb tentativa e pacientit p\u00ebr ta vendosur analistin jasht\u00eb zon\u00ebs s\u00eb kontrollit t\u00eb plotfuqish\u00ebm, pra, jasht\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00eb. Pa p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn e shkat\u00ebrrimtaris\u00eb maksimale (objekti nuk mbrohet), subjekti nuk e vendos kurr\u00eb analistin jasht\u00eb dhe prandaj nuk mundet kurr\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb lloj auto-analize, duke e p\u00ebrdorur analistin si nj\u00eb projektim t\u00eb nj\u00eb pjese t\u00eb vetes. N\u00eb terma t\u00eb ushqyerjes, pacienti, at\u00ebher\u00eb, mund t\u00eb ushqehet vet\u00ebm me veten dhe nuk mundet t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00eb gjirin p\u00ebr t\u2019u sh\u00ebndoshur. Pacienti madje mund t\u00eb shijoj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn analitike por fundamentalisht nuk do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

Dhe n\u00ebse analisti \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb dukuri subjektive, \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb themi p\u00ebr menaxhimin e mbetjeve? Nevojitet nj\u00eb pohim i m\u00ebtejsh\u00ebm n\u00eb terma t\u00eb nxjerrjes jasht\u00eb [output-it]3<\/sup>.<\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bN\u00eb praktik\u00ebn psikoanalitike, ndryshimet pozitive q\u00eb vijn\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb zon\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb thella. Ato nuk varen nga puna interpretuese. Ato varen nga mbijetesa e analistit ndaj sulmeve, q\u00eb p\u00ebrfshin dhe ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me iden\u00eb e munges\u00ebs <\/span><\/span>s\u00eb<\/span><\/span> cil\u00ebsis\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb ndryshimi drejt kund\u00ebrsulmit. K\u00ebto sulme mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb goxha t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrballen nga analisti4<\/sup>,<\/span><\/span> sidomos kur shprehen n\u00eb terma t\u00eb deluzionit, ose p\u00ebrmes manipulimit q\u00eb e b\u00ebn analistin t\u00eb kryej\u00eb faktikisht gj\u00ebra q\u00eb jan\u00eb teknikisht t\u00eb k\u00ebqija. (I referohem k\u00ebtu edhe di\u00e7kaje si t\u00eb qen<\/span><\/span>urit nj\u00eb<\/span><\/span> person tek i cili nuk mund t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetesh, n\u00eb momente kur kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka<\/span><\/span> q\u00eb<\/span><\/span> ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, por edhe mbijetes\u00ebs n\u00eb kuptimin e t\u00eb q\u00ebndruarit gjall\u00eb dhe t\u00eb munges\u00ebs s\u00eb cil\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb kthimit t\u00eb hakut apo kund\u00ebrsulmit.)<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bAnalisti ndjen se do q\u00eb t\u00eb interpretoj\u00eb, por kjo mund t<\/span><\/span>a<\/span><\/span> trazoj\u00eb procesin dhe<\/span><\/span>,<\/span><\/span> p\u00ebr pacientin<\/span><\/span>,<\/span><\/span> mund t\u00eb duket si nj\u00eb lloj vet\u00ebmbrojtje, ku analisti shmang sulmet e pacientit. M\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb pritet derisa faza ta ket\u00eb mbaruar dhe pastaj t\u00eb diskutohet me pacientin \u00e7far\u00eb ka qen\u00eb duke ndodhur. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb me siguri legjitime, sepse si analist\u00eb kemi nevojat tona; por interpretimi verbal n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ve\u00e7oria thelb\u00ebsore dhe sjell\u00eb rreziqe me vete. Ve\u00e7oria thelb\u00ebsore \u00ebsht\u00eb mbijetesa e analistit dhe<\/span><\/span> q\u00eb<\/span><\/span> t\u00eb ruhet e paprekur teknika psikoanalitike. P\u00ebrfytyroni sa traumatike mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb vdekja faktike e analistit kur kjo lloj pune \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb proces, edhe pse vdekja faktike e analistit nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aq e keqe sa zhvillimi brenda analistit i nj\u00eb ndryshimi qasjeje drejt kthimit t\u00eb hakut. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb thjesht duhet t\u00eb rrezikohen prej pacientit. Zakonisht analisti i jeton e i kalon k\u00ebto faza t\u00eb l\u00ebvizjes n\u00eb transferenc\u00eb dhe pas secil\u00ebs faz\u00eb vjen shp\u00ebrblimi n\u00eb terma dashurie, e p\u00ebrforcuar nga fakti i prapasken\u00ebs s\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrimit t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bMua m\u00eb duket se ideja e nj\u00eb faze zhvillimore q\u00eb ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb thelb\u00ebsisht me mbijetes\u00ebn e objektit ndikon [n\u00eb] teorin\u00eb e rr\u00ebnj\u00ebve t\u00eb agresivitetit. Nuk ka vler\u00eb t\u00eb thuhet se foshnja disa-dit\u00ebsh ka zili p\u00ebr gjirin. Legjitime \u00ebsht\u00eb, megjithat\u00eb, t\u00eb thuhet se n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00ebdo moshe q\u00eb foshnja fillon t\u00eb lejoj\u00eb gjiri<\/span><\/span>n<\/span><\/span> t\u00eb z\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb pozicion t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm (jasht\u00eb zon\u00ebs s\u00eb kontrollit t\u00eb projektimit), at\u00ebher\u00eb kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrimi i gjirit \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb ve\u00e7ori. E kam fjal\u00ebn p\u00ebr impulsin faktik p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar. \u00cbsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme e asaj q\u00eb b\u00ebn nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb, t\u00eb jet\u00eb personi i par\u00eb q\u00eb e kalon f\u00ebmij\u00ebn p\u00ebrmes k\u00ebsaj p\u00ebrvoje t\u00eb<\/span><\/span> par\u00eb nd\u00ebr shum\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb hasen, t\u00eb nj\u00eb sulmi q\u00eb i mbijetohet. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7asti i duhur n\u00eb zhvillimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb dob\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb njom\u00eb e relative t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, pra q\u00eb mund t\u2019i mbijetoj\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrimit disi m\u00eb leht\u00eb. Megji<\/span><\/span>th\u00eb<\/span><\/span>k\u00ebt\u00eb,<\/span><\/span> [kjo]<\/span><\/span> mbetet s\u00ebrish \u00e7\u00ebshtje delikate dhe e nd\u00ebrlikuar; \u00ebsht\u00eb tejet e leht\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb reagoj\u00eb moralisht kur f\u00ebmija i saj kafshon dhe shkakton dhimbje.5<\/sup><\/span><\/span> Por kjo gjuh\u00eb q\u00eb flet p\u00ebr \u201cgjirin\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb zhargon. K\u00ebtu p\u00ebrfshihet e gjith\u00eb zona e zhvillimit dhe menaxhimit, n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn p\u00ebrshtatja ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me var\u00ebsin\u00eb.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

Do t\u00eb shihet se, megjith\u00ebse shkat\u00ebrrimi \u00ebsht\u00eb fjala q\u00eb po p\u00ebrdor, shkat\u00ebrrimi <\/span><\/span>i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb<\/span><\/span> i p\u00ebrket d\u00ebshtimit t\u00eb objektit p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbijetuar. Pa k\u00ebt\u00eb d\u00ebshtim, shkat\u00ebrrimi mbetet potencial. Fjala \u201cshkat\u00ebrrim\u201d nevojitet, jo p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb impulsit t\u00eb foshnj\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar, por p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb prirjes s\u00eb objektit p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos mbijetuar, gj\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb ed<\/span><\/span>h<\/span><\/span>e q\u00eb [objekti] t\u00eb p\u00ebsoj\u00eb nj\u00eb ndryshim n\u00eb cil\u00ebsi apo q\u00ebndrim.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

\u200bKjo m\u00ebnyr\u00eb se si i shohim gj\u00ebrat n\u00eb prezantimin tim t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj \u00e7\u00ebshtje b\u00ebn t\u00eb mundur nj\u00eb qasje t\u00eb re ndaj gjith\u00eb tem\u00ebs t\u00eb rr\u00ebnj\u00ebve t\u00eb agresivitetit. P\u00ebr shembull, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme q\u00eb t\u2019i japim agresivitetit t\u00eb lindur m\u00eb shum\u00eb se \u00e7\u2019i takon p\u00ebrkrah gjith\u00e7kaje tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e lindur. Padyshim, agresioni i lindur duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb ndryshueshm\u00ebri n\u00eb kuptimin sasior n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb trash\u00ebgohet \u00ebsht\u00eb <\/span><\/span>e ndryshme nd\u00ebr individ\u00eb. Sa p\u00ebr kokntrast, t\u00eb m\u00ebdha jan\u00eb variacionet q\u00eb dalin nga dallime n\u00eb p\u00ebrvojat e foshnjeve t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb porsalindura n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb a jan\u00eb ndihmuar t\u00eb kalojn\u00eb apo jo<\/span><\/span> k\u00ebt\u00eb <\/span><\/span>faz\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. Variacione t\u00eb tilla n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs jan\u00eb nj\u00ebmend t\u00eb pamata. Ve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, foshnjet t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb ndihmuar t\u00eb kalojn\u00eb mir\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb faz\u00eb kan\u00eb gjas\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb agresiv\u00eb <\/span><\/span>klinikisht<\/span><\/span> sesa ata q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb ndihumar mir\u00eb ta kalojn\u00eb faz\u00ebn dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebt agresiviteti \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb futet n\u00eb qark, ose \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ruhet vet\u00ebm n\u00eb form\u00ebn e nj\u00eb rreziku p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb objekt sulmi.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

Kjo lyp nj\u00eb rishkrim t\u00eb teoris\u00eb mbi rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt e agresionit, pasi shumica e asaj q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shkruar deri tani nga analist\u00ebt \u00ebsht\u00eb formuluar pa iu referuar asaj q\u00eb diskutohet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kapitull. N\u00eb teorin\u00eb ortodokse, supozimi \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb aty, se agresioni \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb reaksion ndaj <\/span><\/span>hasjes<\/span><\/span> me parimin e realitetit, nd\u00ebrsa k\u00ebtu \u00ebsht\u00eb shtysa shkat\u00ebrruese q\u00eb krijon cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e t\u00eb jashtmes. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb qendrore n\u00eb struktur\u00ebn e argumentit tim.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

Le t\u00eb shqyrtoj, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u00e7ast, vendin e sakt\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebtij sulmi dhe mbijetes\u00ebs n\u00eb hierarkin\u00eb e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve. M\u00eb primitiv dhe krejt tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb asgj\u00ebsimi. Asgj\u00ebsim do t\u00eb thot\u00eb \u201cpa shpres\u00eb\u201d; kateksia [investimi psikik] fishket sepse s\u2019ka asnj\u00eb rezultat q\u00eb vjen t\u00eb plot\u00ebsoj\u00eb refleksin e t\u00eb prodhoj\u00eb k\u00ebshtu kusht\u00ebzim. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, sulmi i zem\u00ebruar n\u00eb lidhje me <\/span><\/span>hasjen<\/span><\/span> me parimin e realitetit \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb koncept m\u00eb i sofistikuar, q\u00eb daton pas shkat\u00ebrrimi<\/span><\/span>t<\/span><\/span> q\u00eb un\u00eb postuloj k\u00ebtu. <\/span><\/span>Nuk ka zem\u00ebrim<\/span><\/span> n\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrimin e objektit t\u00eb cilit po i referohem, megjith\u00ebse mund t\u00eb thuhet se ka g\u00ebzim p\u00ebr mbijetes\u00ebn e objektit. Nga ky \u00e7ast e tutje, ose n\u00eb dalje nga kjo faz\u00eb, objekti \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb duke u shkat\u00ebrruar<\/span><\/span> n\u00eb fantazi<\/span><\/span>. Kjo cil\u00ebsi e \u201cgjithmon\u00eb duke u shkat\u00ebrruar\u201d b\u00ebn q\u00eb realiteti i objektit t\u00eb mbijetuar t\u00eb ndihet si i till\u00eb, forcon tonin e ndjenj\u00ebs dhe kontribuon n\u00eb t\u00eb qenurit konstant t\u00eb objektit. Objekti tani mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>

Dua ta p\u00ebrmbyll me nj\u00eb sh\u00ebnim mbi p\u00ebrdorimin dhe m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e p\u00ebrdorimit. Me \u201cp\u00ebrdorim\u201d nuk dua t\u00eb them \u201cshfryt\u00ebzim\u201d. Si analist\u00eb, ne e dim\u00eb se si \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoremi, q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se mund t\u00eb shohim fundin e trajtimit, qoft\u00eb ky fund disa vite larg. Shum\u00eb nga pacient\u00ebt tan\u00eb kur na vijn\u00eb e kan\u00eb zgjidhur tashm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb problem<\/span><\/span> \u2013 ata mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin objekte dhe mund t\u00eb na p\u00ebrdorin neve dhe mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin analiz\u00ebn, ashtu si\u00e7 kan\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur prind\u00ebrit, v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit e motrat dhe sht\u00ebpit\u00eb e tyre. Megjithat\u00eb, ka shum\u00eb pacient\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p<\/span><\/span>rej<\/span><\/span>ne<\/span><\/span>sh<\/span><\/span> q\u00eb t\u00eb jemi n\u00eb gjendje t\u2019u japim atyre nj\u00eb kapacitet p\u00ebr t\u00eb na p\u00ebrdorur. P\u00ebr ta, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb detyra e pun\u00ebs analitike. N\u00eb takimin <\/span><\/span>e <\/span><\/span>nevojave t\u00eb pacient\u00ebve t\u00eb k\u00ebtill\u00eb, do t\u00eb na duhet t\u00eb dim\u00eb rreth asaj q\u00eb po them k\u00ebtu p\u00ebr mbijetes\u00ebn ton\u00eb ndaj shkat\u00ebrrueshm\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb tyre. Ngrihet nj\u00eb sfond i shkat\u00ebrrimit t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm t\u00eb analistit dhe ne mbijetojm\u00eb, ose p\u00ebrndryshe kemi t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr analiz\u00eb t\u00eb pambarimt\u00eb.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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V\u00ebnja n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia me objektin mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruhet n\u00eb terma t\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs s\u00eb subjektit. P\u00ebrshkrimi i p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb objektit p\u00ebrfshin konsiderimin e natyr\u00ebs s\u00eb objektit. Po ofroj p\u00ebr diskutim arsyet pse, sipas mendimit tim, nj\u00eb kapacitet p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur nj\u00eb objekt \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i sofistikuar sesa kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u2019u v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me objektet; dhe q\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb me nj\u00eb objekt subjektiv, por p\u00ebrdorimi n\u00ebnkupton q\u00eb objekti \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e realitetit t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm.<\/span><\/p>

Kjo sekuenc\u00eb [vijuese] mund t\u00eb vrojtohet:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

  1. Subjekti <\/span>futet n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie<\/span><\/i> me objektin.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/li>
  2. Objekti \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb proces p\u00ebr t\u2019u gjetur n\u00eb vend se t\u00eb vendoset nga subjekti n\u00eb bot\u00eb.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>
  3. Subjekti <\/span>shkat\u00ebrron<\/span><\/i> objektin.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/li>
  4. Objekti i mbijeton shkat\u00ebrrimit.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>
  5. Subjekti mund <\/span>ta p\u00ebrdor\u00eb<\/span><\/i> objektin.<\/span><\/span><\/li><\/ol>

    Objekti \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb duke u shkat\u00ebrruar. Ky shkat\u00ebrrim b\u00ebhet sfondi i pavet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb e nj\u00eb objekti real: pra, nj\u00eb objekt jasht\u00eb zon\u00ebs s\u00eb kontrollit t\u00eb plotfuqish\u00ebm t\u00eb subjektit.<\/span><\/p>

    Studimi i k\u00ebtij problemi p\u00ebrfshin nj\u00eb pohim t\u00eb vler\u00ebs pozitive t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrueshm\u00ebris\u00eb. Shkat\u00ebrrueshm\u00ebria, plus mbijetesa e objektit nga shkat\u00ebrrimi, e vendos objektin jasht\u00eb zon\u00ebs s\u00eb objekteve t\u00eb ngritura nga mekanizmat projektues mendor\u00eb t\u00eb subjektit. K\u00ebsisoj krijohet nj\u00eb bot\u00eb me realitet t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn subjekti mund ta p\u00ebrdor\u00eb dhe e cila, nga ana e saj, mund ta ushqej\u00eb subjektin me l\u00ebnd\u00eb tjet\u00ebr pos vetes.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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    \u00a01. <\/span><\/span><\/span>Duke zgjedhur \u201cProceset e maturimit dhe mjedisin leht\u00ebsues\u201d si titullin e librit tim n\u00eb Bibliotek\u00ebn Nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare Psiko-Analitike (1965), po tregoja se sa shum\u00eb isha ndikuar nga Dr Phyllis Greenacre (1960) n\u00eb Kongresin e Edinburgut. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, nuk arrita ta <\/span>fus<\/span> n\u00eb lib\u00ebr nj\u00eb njohje t\u00eb k\u00ebtij fakti.<\/span><\/span><\/p>

    2.<\/span><\/span> Jam ndikuar n\u00eb kuptimin tim t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj pike nga W. Clifford M. Scott (komunikim personal, rreth 1940). <\/span><\/span><\/p>

    3. <\/span><\/span>Detyra vijuese p\u00ebr nj\u00eb punonj\u00ebs n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e dukurive kalimtare \u00ebsht\u00eb ta ripohoj\u00eb problemin n\u00eb terma t\u00eb flakjes tutje. <\/span><\/p>

    4. <\/span>Kur analisti e di q\u00eb pacienti mban nj\u00eb revole, at\u00ebher\u00eb, mua m\u00eb duket, kjo pun\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet. <\/span><\/p>

    5. <\/span>N\u00eb fakt, zhvillimi i foshnj\u00ebs nd\u00ebrlikohet jasht\u00ebzakonisht n\u00ebse ai ose ajo ndodh q\u00eb ka lindur me nj\u00eb dh\u00ebmb, pra q\u00eb sulmi i mishrave t\u00eb dh\u00ebmb\u00ebve n\u00eb gji nuk mund t\u00eb provohet kurr\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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    Imazhi n\u00eb ballin\u00eb<\/em>: Annie Spratt<\/a> n\u00eb Unsplash<\/a><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kapitull propozoj t\u00eb sjell p\u00ebr diskutim iden\u00eb e p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb objekti. Tema shoqe e mar\u00ebdh\u00ebnies me objektet m\u00eb duket mua se ka marr\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen ton\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb. Ideja e p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb objekti nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb, ama, shqyrtuar aq shum\u00eb dhe mund madje t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb studiuar specifikisht. Ky punim mbi p\u00ebrdorimin e nj\u00eb objekti buron prej p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs time klinike dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrvijim i drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb i zhvillimit tim t\u00eb posa\u00e7\u00ebm. Nuk mund t\u00eb marr p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebqen\u00eb, sigurisht, q\u00eb m\u00ebnyra si jan\u00eb zhvilluar idet\u00eb e mia \u00ebsht\u00eb ndjekur edhe nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, por do doja t\u00eb vija n\u00eb pah se ka patur nj\u00eb sekuenc\u00eb dhe rendi q\u00eb mund t\u00eb gjendet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb sekuenc\u00eb i p\u00ebrket evoluimit t\u00eb pun\u00ebs 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