{"id":19256,"date":"2024-02-03T09:43:12","date_gmt":"2024-02-03T08:43:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/?p=19256"},"modified":"2024-10-02T11:38:42","modified_gmt":"2024-10-02T09:38:42","slug":"koti-mohi-loja","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/koti-mohi-loja\/","title":{"rendered":"Koti, mohi, loja"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Koti, mohi, loja<\/span><\/h2>\n<\/header>\n

Nebi Bardhoshi | 03.02.2024 | nyje.al <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/span> Foto nga Nebi Bardhoshi, fshati Rad\u00eb, Durr\u00ebs. B\u00ebr\u00eb me 18 mars, 2021, n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb projektit Atlasi Etnografik i Fshatit Shqiptar Sot<\/span><\/p>\n

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N\u00eb fund t\u00eb shkrimit “Loja p\u00ebr loj\u00ebn, loja si m\u00ebsim se si m\u00ebsohet<\/em><\/a>“<\/span> kam l\u00ebshuar nj\u00eb fjali, e cila ting\u00ebllon disi k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuese, teksa thuhet se, n\u00ebse nuk do t\u00eb jepnim r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb ka loja e vendloja n\u00eb kultur\u00eb, do t\u00eb kishim nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri e cila sheh jet\u00ebn si loj\u00eb ose si luft\u00eb. M\u00ebtimi im \u00ebsht\u00eb se, p\u00ebr t\u00eb dal\u00eb prej kurthit t\u00eb jet\u00ebs si loj\u00eb apo si luft\u00eb, sfera e loj\u00ebs dhe e luft\u00ebs duhet qart\u00ebsuar, si t\u00eb thuash duhen ndar\u00eb. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u2019ka m\u00ebdyshje se do t\u00eb ket\u00eb loj\u00eb luftash apo loj\u00eb si strategji lufte, por k\u00ebto praktika jan\u00eb t\u00eb qarta se cil\u00ebs sfer\u00eb i p\u00ebrkasin. Po ashtu, nuk ka m\u00ebdyshje se nganj\u00ebher\u00eb njer\u00ebzit i paqart\u00ebsojn\u00eb q\u00ebllimisht k\u00ebto dy fusha. Praktika m\u00eb e zakonshme sociale \u201cp\u00ebr t\u00eb paqart\u00ebsuar\u201d k\u00ebto fusha \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht \u201cloja\u201d, por, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, vet\u00eb statusi i loj\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb qart\u00ebsues. Fundja, loja \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vend p\u00ebr paradokse. Qart\u00ebsimi b\u00ebhet i nevojsh\u00ebm at\u00ebher\u00eb kur kultura fillon t\u00eb dominohet prej paqart\u00ebsive t\u00eb kuptimeve t\u00eb jet\u00ebs.  <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00ebse do t\u00eb shtrohej pyetja se cilat jan\u00eb tiparet p\u00ebrve\u00e7\u00ebsuese t\u00eb kultur\u00ebs s\u00eb post-socializmit, edhe pse do t\u00eb ting\u00ebllonte negative, do t\u00eb kisha p\u00ebrve\u00e7uar – kot\u00ebsimin, mohin, pasigurin\u00eb. Aq shum\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb pranishme k\u00ebto tipare, sa kam droje se dominojn\u00eb proceset e maturimit, paralel me nj\u00eb kultur\u00eb vet\u00ebsakrifikimi. Vet\u00ebsakrifikimi dhe shpresa kan\u00eb qen\u00eb bashk\u00ebshoq\u00ebruese, ndoshta shtresa fillestare, por m\u00eb von\u00eb duket se humb\u00ebn territor, duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb ushqyese p\u00ebr kot\u00ebsimin dhe mohin. <\/span><\/p>\n

Kot\u00ebsimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mekaniz\u00ebm sa psikik aq dhe kulturor. Me nj\u00eb t\u00eb kot\u00ebsuar i b\u00ebn vend zhvler\u00ebsimit t\u00eb \u00e7do aksioni dhe mendimi. Kot\u00ebsimi \u00ebsht\u00eb duke e banalizuar, duke e p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsuar e plot forma t\u00eb tjera. Mohi shoq\u00ebron kot\u00ebsimin, duke i paraprir\u00eb, duke e pasuar ose duke ecur krah p\u00ebr krah. Mohi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mekaniz\u00ebm q\u00eb, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb figurative, z\u00eb prit\u00eb dhe k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb asgj\u00ebsoj\u00eb \u00e7do hap\u00ebsir\u00eb kritike, kreative, imagjinative. Shkaqet e pluskimit t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre tipareve kan\u00eb shum\u00eb burime, por, me shum\u00eb gjas\u00eb, nj\u00eb nga shkaqet \u00ebsht\u00eb mbivendosja e loj\u00ebs me realen. P.sh., n\u00eb jet\u00ebn sociale fiton ai q\u00eb luan pa rregulla dhe fiton. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb loj\u00eb ke m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb fitosh me rregulla!<\/span><\/p>\n

K\u00ebsaj hipoteze do t\u2019i kishim shtuar pik\u00ebpamjen teorike t\u00eb Winnicot, se \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht loja ku zbulohet se kush jemi. E n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb prekur, zhvendosur apo tentuar t\u00eb pushtohet hap\u00ebsira e loj\u00ebs, jan\u00eb prekur, zhvendosur, pushtuar rrug\u00eb a shtigje \u201cp\u00ebr t\u00eb zbuluar\u201d se kush jemi, apo vet\u00eb mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb. Pra, n\u00ebse zbulimi i vetvetes u realizoka n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet loj\u00ebs, na lind e drejta t\u00eb mendojm\u00eb se p\u00ebrmasa dhe koha e zbulimit varet prej sken\u00ebs q\u00eb krijon loja. P\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar \u00e7ka ndodhur me prekjen, zhvendosjen apo pushtimin e hap\u00ebsir\u00ebs s\u00eb loj\u00ebs, duhen organizuar studime antropologjike t\u00eb ngeshme, por n\u00eb vijim po paraqes dy-tri v\u00ebzhgime t\u00eb b\u00ebra nd\u00ebr vite n\u00eb fshatin shqiptar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Kur Shqip\u00ebria hyri n\u00eb proceset demokratizuese, ndodhi nj\u00eb ndryshim rr\u00ebnj\u00ebsor n\u00eb gjith\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e fshatit. Hap\u00ebsira, dikur e kolektivizuar dhe e shtet\u00ebzuar, u parcelizua sipas kufijve t\u00eb pronave. Ndryshuan kufij pronash, rrug\u00ebsh dhe themelisht u vendos\u00ebn n\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb kufij t\u00eb rinj t\u00eb lidhnive sociale. P\u00ebr hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e  loj\u00ebs s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve n\u00eb fshat thuajse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuar ndokush. Mosshqet\u00ebsimi ka ndodhur p\u00ebr shkak se vet\u00eb vendloja ka qen\u00eb par\u00eb si dyt\u00ebsore, por edhe se vet\u00eb fshati u p\u00ebrmbyt dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb ende i p\u00ebrmbytur nga hallet.<\/span><\/p>\n

Shum\u00ebkush emigroi dhe e l\u00ebshoi nj\u00ebher\u00eb e p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb vendlindjen. Ata q\u00eb emigruan ndoshta ruajt\u00ebn brenda tyre hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e loj\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre, gj\u00eb e cila duket se po shfaqet tash, gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb, n\u00eb rr\u00ebfimet e tyre. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, n\u00eb shum\u00eb fshatra sot ka plot, madje tep\u00ebr hap\u00ebsir\u00eb ku mund t\u00eb krijohen vendlojra, por s\u2019ka kush t\u00eb luaj\u00eb. Gjat\u00eb sezonit t\u00eb ver\u00ebs ka fshatra q\u00eb gum\u00ebzhijn\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr, duket se dominon imazhi i nj\u00eb vendloje me tipare utilitare –  \u201csa p\u00ebr t\u2019u zbavitur\u201d, \u201csa p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar koh\u00ebn\u201d, \u201chap\u00ebsir\u00eb sa p\u00ebr t\u00eb shk\u00ebputur f\u00ebmij\u00ebn nga telefoni\u201d. \u00c7ka mendohet pak sot \u00ebsht\u00eb loja si hap\u00ebsir\u00eb e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt dhe e mir\u00eb publike, n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn luhet loja e mund\u00ebsive p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb e p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tani vijm\u00eb s\u00ebrish te dy terma, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb t\u00eb mbartin shum\u00eb mbi shpatullat e tyre \u2013 e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt dhe e mir\u00eb publike. N\u00ebse e shohim loj\u00ebn si nj\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb e cila k\u00ebrkon jo vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u humbur, por nj\u00eb vend ku njeriu zbulon veten dhe loj\u00ebn si nj\u00eb proces ku m\u00ebson se si m\u00ebsohet, at\u00ebher\u00eb del se loja \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00ebherazi nj\u00eb tregues i tipareve tona, por edhe i kapacitetit ton\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u shk\u00ebputur prej rendit t\u00eb kot\u00ebsimit e mohimit. Prap\u00eb m\u00eb duhet t\u00eb n\u00ebnvizoj se nuk besoj se loja zgjidh gjith\u00e7ka. Pra, n\u00eb fshat, akoma m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb qytet, hap\u00ebsira e loj\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb zhvendosur dhe pushtuar. Prekur po e po. \u00cbsht\u00eb zhvendosur, qoft\u00eb n\u00eb kuptimin hierarkik t\u00eb kuptimit t\u00eb loj\u00ebs, koh\u00ebs s\u00eb loj\u00ebs, mund\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb loj\u00ebs n\u00eb fshat, pasi ndryshoi e gjith\u00eb morfologjia e hap\u00ebsir\u00ebs fizike prej privatizimit. Kush njeh historin\u00eb e loj\u00ebs e di mir\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrimesh kulturore i kan\u00eb paraprir\u00eb dhe pasuar ndryshimit apo ndalimit t\u00eb loj\u00ebrave. <\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00ebr t\u00eb qart\u00ebsuar hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e loj\u00ebs me realen \u00ebsht\u00eb nevoja p\u00ebr t\u2019u kthjelluar. Loja mund t\u00eb shihet si nj\u00eb \u201cvend\u201d ku mund t\u00eb zbulojm\u00eb veten, nj\u00eb vend ku matemi me tjetrin, por, akoma m\u00eb shum\u00eb, nj\u00eb vend ku njeriu provon duke v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb loj\u00eb kapacitetin e vet krijues. Prej k\u00ebtu, me gjith\u00eb dyshimet permanente q\u00eb shoq\u00ebrojn\u00eb dijen, besoj se vet\u00ebm kur individi dhe shoq\u00ebria t\u00eb ushtrohen n\u00eb kreativitet, at\u00ebher\u00eb ka vend p\u00ebr shpres\u00eb, sepse po kalohet caku i l\u00ebngatave sociale q\u00eb thuren nga koti dhe mohi. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

N\u00eb fund t\u00eb shkrimit pararend\u00ebs kam l\u00ebshuar nj\u00eb fjali, e cila ting\u00ebllon disi k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuese, teksa thuhet se, n\u00ebse nuk do t\u00eb jepnim r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb ka loja e vendloja n\u00eb kultur\u00eb, do t\u00eb kishim nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri e cila sheh jet\u00ebn si loj\u00eb ose si luft\u00eb. M\u00ebtimi im \u00ebsht\u00eb se, p\u00ebr t\u00eb dal\u00eb prej kurthit t\u00eb jet\u00ebs si loj\u00eb apo si luft\u00eb, sfera e loj\u00ebs dhe e luft\u00ebs duhet qart\u00ebsuar, si t\u00eb thuash duhen ndar\u00eb. S\u2019ka m\u00ebdyshje se do t\u00eb ket\u00eb loj\u00eb luftash apo loj\u00eb si strategji lufte, por k\u00ebto praktika jan\u00eb t\u00eb qarta se cil\u00ebs sfer\u00eb i p\u00ebrkasin. 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