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Genc Shehu | P\u00ebrkthim | 20.06.2023 | nyje.al\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm <\/i><\/em><\/strong>\u00eb<\/i><\/em>sht<\/i><\/em>\u00eb<\/i><\/em>\u00a0tekst i bazuar<\/i><\/em>\u00a0<\/i><\/em>n\u00eb nj\u00eb punim t\u00eb <\/i><\/em>prezantuar<\/i><\/em>\u00a0n\u00eb <\/i><\/em>Takim<\/i><\/em>in<\/i><\/em>\u00a0Ekstra Shkencor<\/i><\/em>\u00a0t\u00eb Shoq\u00ebris\u00eb Psiko-Analitike Britanike, 24 korrik 1957<\/i><\/em>\u00a0nga <\/i><\/em>Donald Winicott<\/i><\/em>, shkruar m\u00eb pas n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb form\u00eb<\/i><\/em>\u00a0n<\/i><\/em>\u00eb<\/i><\/em>\u00a0vitin 1958.<\/i><\/em>\u00a0Donald Winicott (1896 \u2013 1971) ishte pediat\u00ebr dhe psikoanalist me fam\u00eb dhe i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm anglez i cili ndikoi n\u00eb ngritjen dhe zhvillimin e asaj q\u00eb sot quhet shkolla britanike e psikoanaliz\u00ebs, duke kontribuuar sidomos n\u00eb shtjellimin e teoris\u00eb s\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve objektuale dhe n\u00eb psikologjin\u00eb zhvillimore. Ai ka b\u00ebr\u00eb kontribute t\u00eb shumta n\u00eb tranzicionin dhe zhvillimin edhe t\u00eb disa aspekteve terapeutike t\u00eb psikoanaliz\u00ebs bashk\u00ebkohore prej asaj t\u00eb paraluft\u00ebs.<\/i><\/em><\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>

Dua t\u00eb kryej nj\u00eb shqyrtim t\u00eb kapacitetit t\u00eb individit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm, duke u nisur me supozimin se ky kapacitet \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebr shenjat m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb pjekuris\u00eb n\u00eb zhvillimin emocional.<\/span><\/p>

N\u00eb pothuaj t\u00eb gjitha trajtimet psikoanalitike, vjen nj\u00eb koh\u00eb kur aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr pacientin. N\u00eb aspektin klinik kjo do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb sh\u00ebmb\u00ebllehej me nj\u00eb faz\u00eb ose seanc\u00eb t\u00eb heshtur dhe kjo heshtje, larg nga t\u00eb qenurit d\u00ebshmi rezistence, del t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb arritje nga ana e pacientit. Ndoshta mu n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb pacienti p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i aft\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb vet\u00ebm. Pik\u00ebrisht n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb aspekt t\u00eb transferenc\u00ebs, n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin pacienti \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00eb seanc\u00ebn analitike, dua ta sjell v\u00ebmendjen.<\/span><\/p>

Ka gjas\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb th\u00ebnia se n\u00eb literatur\u00ebn psikoanalitike \u00ebsht\u00eb shkruar m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr frik\u00ebn<\/em>\u00a0e t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm ose p\u00ebr d\u00ebshir\u00ebn<\/em>\u00a0p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm sesa mbi aft\u00ebsin\u00eb<\/em>\u00a0p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm; jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb po ashtu nj\u00eb mas\u00eb e konsiderueshme punimesh mbi gjendjen e t\u00ebrhequr, nj\u00eb organizim mbrojt\u00ebs q\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton nj\u00eb pritshm\u00ebri persekutimi. Mua do m\u00eb dukej se nj\u00eb diskutim i aspekteve pozitive<\/em>\u00a0t\u00eb kapacitetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm ka koh\u00eb q\u00eb duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb. N\u00eb literatur\u00eb mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb tentativa t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta p\u00ebr t\u00eb pohuar kapacitetin p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm, por un\u00eb nuk jam i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr k\u00ebto. Dua t\u00eb marr p\u00ebr referenc\u00eb konceptin e Freud-it t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies <\/em>anaklitike1<\/sup><\/em>\u00a0(Mbi narcizizmin<\/em>, 1914).2<\/sup><\/span><\/p>

Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tri- dhe dy-trupore<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Rickman na prezantoi me iden\u00eb e t\u00eb menduarit n\u00eb terma marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniesh tre-trupore dhe dy-trupore. Shpesh i referohemi kompleksit t\u00eb Edipit si stad ku marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet tre-trupore mbizot\u00ebrojn\u00eb fush\u00ebn e p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs. \u00c7do p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruar kompleksin e Edipit n\u00eb terma t\u00eb dy njer\u00ebzve duhet t\u00eb d\u00ebshtoj\u00eb. Sidoqoft\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet dy-trupore v\u00ebrtet ekzistojn\u00eb dhe k\u00ebto i p\u00ebrkasin stadeve relativisht m\u00eb t\u00eb hershme n\u00eb historin\u00eb e individit. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia origjinale me dy trupa \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo e foshnj\u00ebs dhe n\u00ebn\u00ebs ose z\u00ebvend\u00ebsueses s\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs, p\u00ebrpara se ndonj\u00eb tipar i n\u00ebn\u00ebs t\u00eb shkoqitet dhe t\u00eb marr\u00eb trajt\u00ebn e ides\u00eb s\u00eb nj\u00eb babai. Koncepti i Klein-it i pozicionit depresiv mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruhet n\u00eb terma t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve dy-trupore dhe ndoshta \u00ebsht\u00eb me vend t\u00eb thuhet se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia dy-trupore \u00ebsht\u00eb tipar thelb\u00ebsor [i k\u00ebtij] konceptit.<\/span><\/p>

Pasi kemi menduar n\u00eb terma t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve tre- dhe dy-trupore, sa natyrsh\u00ebm ndodh q\u00eb t\u00eb shkohet edhe nj\u00eb hap m\u00eb prapa dhe t\u00eb flasim p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie nj\u00eb-trupore! N\u00eb fillim do t\u00eb dukej se narcizizmi do t\u00eb ishte marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia nj\u00eb-trupore: ose nj\u00eb form\u00eb e hershme e narcizizmit sekondar ose vet\u00eb narcizizmi primar. Un\u00eb sugjeroj se ky kap\u00ebrcim prej marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve dy-trupore n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie nj\u00eb-trupore nuk mundet, n\u00eb fakt, t\u00eb b\u00ebhet pa shkelur shum\u00e7ka prej asaj q\u00eb dim\u00eb p\u00ebrmes pun\u00ebs son\u00eb analitike dhe prej vrojtimeve t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejta t\u00eb n\u00ebnave dhe foshnj\u00ebve.<\/span><\/p>

T\u00eb jesh faktikisht vet\u00ebm<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Le t\u00eb vihet re se ajo p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e kam fjal\u00ebn nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jesh faktikisht vet\u00ebm. Nj\u00eb person mund gjendet n\u00eb qeli i izoluar dhe prap\u00eb t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb i aft\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm. Se sa shum\u00eb do t\u00eb vuante [ky person] \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrtej imagjinat\u00ebs. Sidoqoft\u00eb, shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz b\u00ebhen v\u00ebrtet t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u00eb shijojn\u00eb vetmin\u00eb p\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb dalin prej f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb dhe madje me gjas\u00eb e vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb vetmin\u00eb si di\u00e7ka tejet t\u00eb \u00e7muar t\u00eb tyren.<\/span><\/p>

Kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm ose \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb dukuri tejet e sofistikuar \u2013 dukuri q\u00eb mund t\u00eb vij\u00eb, n\u00eb zhvillimin personal, pas<\/em>\u00a0themelimit t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve tre-trupore \u2013 ose, p\u00ebrndryshe, \u00ebsht\u00eb dukuri e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb hershme q\u00eb meriton studim t\u00eb posa\u00e7\u00ebm sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb tabani mbi t\u00eb cilin vetmia e sofistikuar ngrihet.<\/span><\/p>

Paradoks<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Argumenti kryesor i k\u00ebtij kontributi tashm\u00eb mund t\u00eb formulohet. Edhe pse ka shum\u00eb tipe p\u00ebrvojash q\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb ngritjen e kapacitetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm, ekziston nj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb themeltar dhe pa nj\u00ebfar\u00eb boll\u00ebku t\u00eb s\u00eb cilit kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm nuk vjen n\u00eb shprehje; kjo p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo e t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm, si foshnj\u00eb dhe f\u00ebmij\u00eb i vog\u00ebl, n\u00eb pranin\u00eb e n\u00ebn\u00ebs<\/em>. K\u00ebshtu ngrehina e kapacitetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb paradoks; \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrvoja e t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb dikush tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb i pranish\u00ebm.<\/span><\/p>

K\u00ebtu n\u00ebnkuptohet nj\u00eb tip marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje mjaft e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb: ajo midis foshnj\u00ebs ose f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb vog\u00ebl q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm; dhe t\u00eb s\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebs apo z\u00ebvend\u00ebsueses s\u00eb saj q\u00eb gjendet e pranishme aty si pik\u00ebmb\u00ebshtetje e besuar edhe n\u00ebse p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsohet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7ast nga nj\u00eb shtrat apo karroc\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebsh, ose nga atmosfera e p\u00ebrgjithshme e mjedisit t\u00eb menj\u00ebhersh\u00ebm. Do t\u00eb doja t\u00eb sugjeroja nj\u00eb em\u00ebr p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb tip t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje.<\/span><\/p>

Personalisht p\u00eblqej t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor termin raportim-i-egos<\/em>\u00a0[ego-relatedness<\/em>], q\u00eb na vjen p\u00ebr mbar\u00eb sepse bie mjaft qart\u00eb n\u00eb kontrast me fjal\u00ebn marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie-e-idit <\/em>[id-relationship<\/em>], \u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikim q\u00eb na p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb quhet jet\u00eb e egos. Raportimi-i-egos i referohet marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies midis dy personave, ku nj\u00ebri prej t\u00eb cil\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm; ndoshta t\u00eb dy jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm por prap\u00eb prania e secilit \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr tjetrin. Un\u00eb vler\u00ebsoj se, n\u00ebse krahasohet kuptimi i fjal\u00ebs \u201cp\u00eblqim\u201d me at\u00eb t\u00eb fjal\u00ebs \u201cdashuri\u201d, do mund t\u00eb shihet se p\u00eblqimi \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje e raportimit-t\u00eb-egos, nd\u00ebrsa dashuria ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e idit, qofshin k\u00ebto t\u00eb pap\u00ebrpunuara apo n\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb sublimuar.<\/span><\/p>

P\u00ebrpara shtjellimit t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre dy ideve n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn time, dua t\u2019ju p\u00ebrmend se si do t\u00eb ishte e mundshme t\u2019i referohemi kapacitetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00eb frazeologjin\u00eb e st\u00ebrp\u00ebrdorur psiko-analitike.<\/span><\/p>

Pas aktit seksual<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Ndoshta \u00ebsht\u00eb me vend t\u00eb thuhet se pas nj\u00eb akti p\u00ebrmbush\u00ebs seksual secili partner \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm dhe i k\u00ebnaqur me t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm. T\u00eb jesh i aft\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb shijoj\u00eb t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm s\u00eb bashku me nj\u00eb person tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb vetvete nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb sh\u00ebndeti. Nj\u00eb munges\u00eb e tensionit t\u00eb idit mund t\u00eb prodhoj\u00eb ankth, por integrimi kohor i personalitetit e mund\u00ebson individin t\u00eb pres\u00eb p\u00ebr rikthimin e natyrsh\u00ebm t\u00eb tensionit t\u00eb idit dhe t\u00eb shijoj\u00eb bashk\u00ebndarjen e vetmis\u00eb, pra, vetmi q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb relativisht e lir\u00eb prej tiparit q\u00eb ne quajm\u00eb \u201ct\u00ebrheqje\u201d [withdrawal<\/em>].<\/span><\/p>

Skena primare<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb thuhej se kapaciteti i nj\u00eb individi p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm varet nga aft\u00ebsia e tij p\u00ebr t\u2019u marr\u00eb me ndjenjat q\u00eb zgjohen nga skena primare. N\u00eb sken\u00ebn primare nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie e eksituar midis prind\u00ebrve perceptohet ose imagjinohet dhe kjo pranohet nga f\u00ebmija q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb e q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb mjesht\u00ebroj\u00eb urrejtjen dhe ta mbledh\u00eb at\u00eb n\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim t\u00eb masturbimit. N\u00eb masturbim, e gjith\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia p\u00ebr fantazin\u00eb e vet\u00ebdijshme dhe t\u00eb pavet\u00ebdijshme pranohet nga individi f\u00ebmij\u00eb, i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb personi i tret\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie tre-trupore ose trek\u00ebndore. T\u00eb jesh n\u00eb gjendje p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00eb k\u00ebto rrethana n\u00ebnkupton pjekuri t\u00eb zhvillimit erotik, nj\u00eb potenc\u00eb gjenitale ose pranimin homolog fem\u00ebror; n\u00ebnkupton fuzionin ose p\u00ebrzierjen bashk\u00eb t\u00eb impulseve dhe ideve agresive dhe erotike, si dhe n\u00ebnkupton nj\u00eb aft\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb duruar ambivalenc\u00ebn; bashk\u00eb me gjith\u00eb k\u00ebto do t\u00eb gjendej natyrsh\u00ebm nj\u00eb kapacitet nga ana e individit p\u00ebr t\u2019u identifikuar me secilin prej prind\u00ebrve.<\/span><\/p>

Nj\u00eb parashtrim n\u00eb k\u00ebto terma apo t\u00eb tjer\u00eb me gjas\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebhej pothuaj pafund\u00ebsisht i nd\u00ebrlikuar, sepse kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb tejet af\u00ebr si sinonim me pjekurin\u00eb emocionale.<\/span><\/p>

Objekt i mir\u00eb i brendsh\u00ebm<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Tani do t\u00eb provoj t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor nj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, gjuh\u00eb q\u00eb na vjen prej vepr\u00ebs s\u00eb Melanie Klein. Kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm varet prej ekzistenc\u00ebs s\u00eb nj\u00eb objekti t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb realitetin psikik t\u00eb individit. Gjiri, ose penisi, i mir\u00eb i brendsh\u00ebm ose marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e mira t\u00eb brendshme jan\u00eb t\u00eb ngritura dhe t\u00eb mbrojtura mjaftuesh\u00ebm mir\u00eb q\u00eb individi (p\u00ebr nj\u00ebfar\u00eb kohe t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn) t\u00eb ndihet me vet\u00ebbesim p\u00ebr t\u00eb tashmen dhe t\u00eb ardhmen. Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia e individit me objektet e brendshme t\u00eb tij ose saj, bashk\u00eb me vet\u00ebbesimin sa i p\u00ebrket marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve t\u00eb brendshme, siguron vetiu nj\u00eb mjaftueshm\u00ebri t\u00eb jetuari asisoj q\u00eb p\u00ebrkoh\u00ebsisht ai ose ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb prehet i k\u00ebnaqur qoft\u00eb edhe n\u00eb munges\u00eb t\u00eb objekteve dhe stimujve t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm. Pjekuria dhe kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00ebnkupton q\u00eb individi ka patur shansin, p\u00ebrmes nj\u00eb kujdesi mjaftuesh\u00ebm t\u00eb mir\u00eb m\u00ebm\u00ebsor [good-enough mothering<\/em>], t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb besimi q\u00eb mjedisi \u00ebsht\u00eb i pad\u00ebmsh\u00ebm. Ky besim nd\u00ebrtohet p\u00ebrmes nj\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritje t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushjeve t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqshme instinktuale.<\/span><\/p>

N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gjuh\u00eb, e gjejm\u00eb veten duke iu referuar nj\u00eb stadi m\u00eb t\u00eb hersh\u00ebm t\u00eb zhvillimit t\u00eb individit nga ai ku sundon kompleksi klasik i Edipit. Sidoqoft\u00eb, k\u00ebtu hamend\u00ebsohet nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb e konsiderueshme pjekurie t\u00eb egos. Hamend\u00ebsohet integrimi i individit n\u00eb nj\u00eb nj\u00ebsi sepse, p\u00ebrndryshe, nuk do t\u00eb kishte fare kuptim kur i referohemi t\u00eb brendshmes dhe t\u00eb jashtmes, ose dometh\u00ebnies s\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb q\u00eb i japim fantazis\u00eb t\u00eb s\u00eb\u00a0brendshmes. N\u00eb terma negativ\u00eb: duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb lirie relative prej ankthit persekutor. N\u00eb terma pozitiv\u00eb: ka objekte t\u00eb mira t\u00eb brendshme n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e brendshme personale t\u00eb individit dhe jan\u00eb n\u00eb gatishm\u00ebri p\u00ebr t\u2019u projektuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ast t\u00eb volitsh\u00ebm.<\/span><\/p>

T\u00eb jesh vet\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb papjekur<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Pyetja q\u00eb do t\u00eb shtrohet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo: A mundet nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb ose foshnj\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb stad shum\u00eb t\u00eb hersh\u00ebm kur papjekuria e egos e b\u00ebn t\u00eb pamundur dh\u00ebnien e nj\u00eb p\u00ebrshkrimi t\u00eb t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm n\u00eb frazeologjin\u00eb q\u00eb sapo p\u00ebrdor\u00ebm? Pjesa thelb\u00ebsore e tez\u00ebs sime \u00ebsht\u00eb se kemi nj\u00ebmend nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u00eb flasim p\u00ebr nj\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb pasofistikuar t\u00eb t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm dhe se madje, n\u00ebse pajtohemi q\u00eb kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb v\u00ebrtet vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb sofistikim, aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb v\u00ebrtet vet\u00ebm ka si themel p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn e hershme e t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm n\u00eb pranin\u00eb e dikujt. T\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm n\u00eb pranin\u00eb e dikujt mundet t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb stad shum\u00eb t\u00eb hersh\u00ebm, kur papjekuria e egos <\/em>drejtpeshohet <\/em>natyrsh\u00ebm me mb\u00ebshtetje t\u00eb egos<\/em>\u00a0prej t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebs. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, individi introjekton n\u00ebn\u00ebn mb\u00ebshtet\u00ebse t\u00eb egos dhe k\u00ebsisoj b\u00ebhet i aft\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm pa referenc\u00eb t\u00eb shpesht\u00eb ndaj n\u00ebn\u00ebs ose nj\u00eb simboli n\u00ebne.<\/span><\/p>

\u201cJam vet\u00ebm\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Do t\u00eb doja ta rikapja k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr duke studiuar fjal\u00ebt \u201c[un\u00eb] jam vet\u00ebm\u201d.<\/span><\/p>

S\u00eb pari \u00ebsht\u00eb fjala \u201cun\u00eb\u201d q\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton goxha rritje emocionale. Individi themelohet si nj\u00ebsi. Integrimi \u00ebsht\u00eb fakt. Bota e jashtme hidhet posht\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb bot\u00eb e brendshme \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb e mundshme. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb pohim topografik i personalitetit si gj\u00eb, si organizim b\u00ebrthamash egoje. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb asnj\u00eb referenc\u00eb ndaj t\u00eb jetuarit.<\/span><\/p>

Pastaj vijn\u00eb fjal\u00ebt \u201cun\u00eb jam\u201d q\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson nj\u00eb stad n\u00eb rritjen individuale. Me k\u00ebto fjal\u00eb individi jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb ka trajt\u00eb por edhe jet\u00eb. N\u00eb fillimet e \u201cun\u00eb jam\u201d, individi \u00ebsht\u00eb (si t\u00eb thuash) i pap\u00ebrpunuar, i pambrojtur, i cenuesh\u00ebm, potencialisht paranojak. Individi mundet t\u00eb arrij\u00eb stadin e \u201cun\u00eb jam\u201d vet\u00ebm n\u00eb saje t\u00eb nj\u00eb mjedisi mbrojt\u00ebs; mjedisi mbrojt\u00ebs n\u00eb fakt \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebna e preokupuar me foshnj\u00ebn e saj dhe e orientuar p\u00ebr nga k\u00ebrkesat e egos s\u00eb foshnj\u00ebs p\u00ebrmes identifikimit t\u00eb saj me foshnj\u00ebn e saj. Nuk ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb postulohet nga ana e foshnj\u00ebs nj\u00eb vet\u00ebdije p\u00ebr t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb stad t\u00eb \u201cun\u00eb jam\u201d.<\/span><\/p>

Tani vij te fjal\u00ebt \u201cun\u00eb jam vet\u00ebm\u201d. Sipas teoris\u00eb q\u00eb po parashtroj, ky stad i m\u00ebtejsh\u00ebm p\u00ebrfshin v\u00ebrtet nj\u00eb \u00e7muarje nga ana e foshnj\u00ebs p\u00ebr vazhdim\u00ebsin\u00eb e ekzistenc\u00ebs s\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebs. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb nuk dua t\u00eb them medoemos [se ka] nj\u00eb vet\u00ebdije me mendje t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjshme. Un\u00eb vler\u00ebsoj, sidoqoft\u00eb, se \u201cun\u00eb jam vet\u00ebm\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb zhvillim prej \u201cun\u00eb jam\u201d q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijes s\u00eb foshnj\u00ebs p\u00ebr ekzistenc\u00ebn e vazhduar t\u00eb nj\u00eb n\u00ebne t\u00eb besueshme, besueshm\u00ebria e s\u00eb cil\u00ebs b\u00ebn t\u00eb mundur p\u00ebr foshnj\u00ebn t\u00eb jet\u00eb vet\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb shijoj\u00eb t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb kufizuar.<\/span><\/p>

Pra, un\u00eb jam duke u rrekur t\u00eb justifikoj paradoksin se kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm bazohet n\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn e t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm n\u00eb pranin\u00eb e dikujt dhe se, pa patur mjaftuesh\u00ebm nga kjo p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb, kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm nuk mund t\u00eb zhvillohet.<\/span><\/p>

\u201cRaporti-i-egos\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Tani, n\u00ebse kam t\u00eb drejt\u00eb n\u00eb tematik\u00ebn e k\u00ebtij paradoksi, \u00ebsht\u00eb me interes t\u00eb shqyrtojm\u00eb natyr\u00ebn e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies s\u00eb foshnj\u00ebs me n\u00ebn\u00ebn, [pra] at\u00eb q\u00eb brenda q\u00ebllimeve t\u00eb k\u00ebtij shkrimi e kam quajtur raporti i egos. Do t\u00eb shihet se un\u00eb i kushtoj nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb madhe k\u00ebtij raportimi, pasi konsideroj se \u00ebsht\u00eb materiali prej t\u00eb cilit p\u00ebrb\u00ebhet miq\u00ebsia. Mund t\u00eb dal\u00eb se [kjo] \u00ebsht\u00eb matrica e transferenc\u00ebs<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>

Ekziston edhe nj\u00eb arsye tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebrse i kushtoj nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb k\u00ebsaj \u00e7\u00ebshtjeje t\u00eb raportimit t\u00eb egos, por q\u00eb ta b\u00ebj t\u00eb qart\u00eb \u00e7\u2019dua t\u00eb them, m\u00eb duhet t\u00eb dal nga tema p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u00e7ast.<\/span><\/p>

Mendoj se n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi pajtohemi se impulsi i idit \u00ebsht\u00eb dometh\u00ebn\u00ebs vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse ky [impuls] p\u00ebrmbahet n\u00eb jetes\u00ebn e egos. Nj\u00eb impuls idi ose pengon egon e dob\u00ebt ose p\u00ebrndryshe e forcon egon e fort\u00eb. Mund t\u00eb thuhet se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e idit e forcojn\u00eb egon kur ato ndodhin n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb raportimit t\u00eb egos<\/em>. N\u00ebse kjo pranohet, at\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb kuptuarit e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb kapacitetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm pason. Vet\u00ebm kur \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm (pra, n\u00eb prani t\u00eb dikujt) foshnja mundet t\u00eb zbuloj\u00eb jet\u00ebn e vet personale. Alternativa patologjike \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb e rrem\u00eb e nd\u00ebrtuar mbi reagime ndaj stimujve t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm. Kur \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm, n\u00eb kuptimin q\u00eb jam duke e p\u00ebrdor termin, dhe vet\u00ebm kur \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm foshnja \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb barazvlefshmen e asaj q\u00eb nd\u00ebr t\u00eb rriturit do t\u00eb quhej rehati ose \u00e7lodhje. Foshnja \u00ebsht\u00eb e aft\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb e paintegruar, t\u00eb rropatet n\u00eb vend, t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje ku nuk ka orientim, t\u00eb jet\u00eb e aft\u00eb t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb pa qen\u00eb as reagues ndaj nj\u00eb rreziku t\u00eb jasht\u00ebm e as t\u00eb jet\u00eb person aktiv me nj\u00eb drejtim interesi ose n\u00eb l\u00ebvizje. Skena \u00ebsht\u00eb ngritur p\u00ebr nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb idi. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs vjen nj\u00eb ndijim apo impuls. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mjedis ndijimi ose impulsi do t\u00eb ndihet real dhe do jet\u00eb v\u00ebrtet nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb vetjake.<\/span><\/p>

Tani mund t\u00eb shihet pse ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi q\u00eb dikush t\u00eb jet\u00eb i disponuesh\u00ebm dhe i pranish\u00ebm, edhe pse i pranish\u00ebm pa b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebrkesa; me ardhjen e impulsit, p\u00ebrvoja e idit mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e frytshme dhe objekti mundet t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e personit p\u00ebrkujdes\u00ebs ose i gjith\u00eb ky person, pra n\u00ebna. Vet\u00ebm n\u00ebn k\u00ebto kushte mundet q\u00eb foshnja t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb q\u00eb ndihet reale. Nj\u00eb num\u00ebr i madh p\u00ebrjetimesh t\u00eb tilla formojn\u00eb themelin p\u00ebr nj\u00eb jet\u00eb q\u00eb ka realitet n\u00eb t\u00eb, n\u00eb vend se kot\u00ebsi. Individi q\u00eb ka zhvilluar kapacitetin p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb vazhdimisht i aft\u00eb t\u00eb rizbuloj\u00eb impulsin personal dhe impulsi personal nuk \u00e7ohet d\u00ebm ngase gjendja e t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb (edhe pse paradoksalisht) gjithnj\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton se dikush tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb aty.<\/span><\/p>

Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs individi b\u00ebhet i aft\u00eb t\u00eb heq dor\u00eb nga prania faktuale e t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebs ose figur\u00ebs m\u00ebm\u00ebsore. K\u00ebsaj [dukurie] i jan\u00eb referuar me terma t\u00eb atill\u00eb si themelim i nj\u00eb \u201cmjedisi t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm\u201d. Gjithshesi kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e lasht\u00eb se dukuria q\u00eb meriton termin \u201cn\u00ebn\u00eb e introjektuar\u201d.<\/span><\/p>

Klimaksi n\u00eb raportimin-e-egos<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Tani do t\u00eb doja t\u00eb shkoja pak m\u00eb tutje n\u00eb spekulim sa i p\u00ebrket raportimit-t\u00eb-egos dhe mund\u00ebsive t\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs brenda k\u00ebtij raportimi, si dhe t\u00eb konsideroj konceptin e nj\u00eb orgazme t\u00eb egos<\/em>. Jam sigurisht i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm se, n\u00ebse ekziston nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb si orgazm\u00eb\u00a0e egos, ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb frenim n\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn instinktuale do t\u00eb priren t\u00eb specializohen n\u00eb orgazma t\u00eb tilla, asisoj q\u00eb do t\u00eb kishte nj\u00eb patologji t\u00eb tendenc\u00ebs drejt orgazm\u00ebs s\u00eb egos. H\u00ebp\u00ebrh\u00eb dua t\u00eb l\u00eb m\u00ebnjan\u00eb shqyrtimin e patologjikes, pa harruar identifikimin e trupit si t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb me nj\u00eb objekt t\u00eb pjessh\u00ebm (fallus) dhe t\u00eb pyes vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb vler\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb menduarin e ekstaz\u00ebs<\/em>\u00a0si orgazm\u00eb e egos. N\u00eb personin normal, nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb tejet p\u00ebrmbush\u00ebse si ajo q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrftohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb koncert a n\u00eb teat\u00ebr ose n\u00eb nj\u00eb miq\u00ebsi, mund t\u00eb meritoj\u00eb nj\u00eb term si orgazm\u00eb egoje, \u00e7ka ta \u00e7on v\u00ebmendjen te klimaksi dhe te r\u00ebnd\u00ebsia e klimaksit. Mund t\u00eb mendohet si jo e men\u00e7ur q\u00eb fjala orgazm\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kontekst; mendoj se prap\u00eb ka hap\u00ebsir\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb diskutim t\u00eb klimaksit q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb n\u00eb raportimin p\u00ebrmbush\u00ebs t\u00eb egos. Dikush mund t\u00eb pyes\u00eb: kur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb duke luajtur, a \u00ebsht\u00eb e gjith\u00eb loja sublimim i impulsit t\u00eb idit? A nuk mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb ndonj\u00eb vler\u00eb t\u00eb mendosh se ka nj\u00eb ndryshim edhe n\u00eb cil\u00ebsi<\/em>\u00a0sikurse n\u00eb sasin\u00eb e id-it<\/em>\u00a0kur krahasohet loja q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e k\u00ebnaqshme me instinktin baz\u00eb thjesht e vet\u00ebm t\u00eb loj\u00ebs? Koncepti i sublimimit g\u00ebzon pranim t\u00eb plot\u00eb dhe ka vler\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, por \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u ardhur keq fshehja e referenc\u00ebs ndaj dallimit madhor q\u00eb ekziston midis lodrimit t\u00eb lumtur t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe loj\u00ebs s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve q\u00eb ngaz\u00ebllehen kompulsivisht e q\u00eb mund t\u00eb shihen se jan\u00eb shum\u00eb af\u00ebr nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoje instinktuale. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se edhe n\u00eb lodrimin e lumtur t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, gjith\u00e7ka mund t\u00eb interpretohet<\/em>\u00a0n\u00eb terma t\u00eb impulsit t\u00eb idit; kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundshme sepse flasim n\u00eb terma simbolesh dhe jemi padyshim n\u00eb terren t\u00eb sigurt kur neve p\u00ebrdorim simbolizmin dhe t\u00eb kuptuarin e t\u00eb gjith\u00eb\u00a0loj\u00ebs n\u00eb terma t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve t\u00eb idit. Sidoqoft\u00eb, ne l\u00ebm\u00eb jasht\u00eb di\u00e7ka jetike n\u00ebse nuk mbajm\u00eb n\u00eb mendje se loja e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e lumtur kur ajo nd\u00ebrlikohet nga ngaz\u00ebllime trupore me klimakset e tyre fizike.<\/span><\/p>

I ashtuquajturi f\u00ebmij\u00eb normal \u00ebsht\u00eb i aft\u00eb t\u00eb lodroj\u00eb, t\u00eb ngaz\u00ebllehet teksa luan dhe t\u00eb ndihet i p\u00ebrmbushur me loj\u00ebn<\/em>\u00a0pa u ndjer\u00eb i k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar nga nj\u00eb orgazm\u00eb fizike me eksitim lokal. P\u00ebr kontrast, nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb i privuar, me tendenc\u00eb antisociale, ose \u00e7far\u00ebdo f\u00ebmij\u00eb me papushueshm\u00ebri t\u00eb theksuar manie mbrojt\u00ebse, \u00ebsht\u00eb i paaft\u00eb ta shijoj\u00eb loj\u00ebn sepse trupi fillon e p\u00ebrfshihet fizikisht. Lind nevoja e nj\u00eb klimaksi fizik dhe \u00e7do prind e njeh momentin kur nuk ka gj\u00eb q\u00eb ta \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb fund nj\u00eb loj\u00eb p\u00ebrve\u00e7se nj\u00eb shpulle \u2013 \u00e7ka jep nj\u00eb klimaks t\u00eb rrem\u00eb, por shum\u00eb t\u00eb dobish\u00ebm. N\u00eb mendimin tim, n\u00ebse krahasojm\u00eb loj\u00ebn e lumtur t\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije \u2013 ose p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn e nj\u00eb t\u00eb rrituri n\u00eb nj\u00eb koncert \u2013 me nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb seksuale, dallimi \u00ebsht\u00eb aq i madh sa nuk do t\u00eb b\u00ebnim d\u00ebm t\u00eb lejonim nj\u00eb term tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruar dy p\u00ebrvojat. Cilidoqoft\u00eb simbolizmi i pavet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm, sasia faktike e ngacmimit fizik \u00ebsht\u00eb minimal n\u00eb nj\u00ebrin tip t\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs dhe maksimal n\u00eb tjetrin. Do mund t\u2019i ngrinim kapelen r\u00ebnd\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb raportimit t\u00eb egos per se<\/em>\u00a0pa hequr dor\u00eb prej ideve q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb themel t\u00eb konceptit t\u00eb sublimimit.<\/span><\/p>

P\u00ebrmbledhje<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

Kapaciteti p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb dukuri tejet e sofistikuar dhe ka shum\u00eb faktor\u00eb kontribues. Ai nd\u00ebrlidhet ngusht\u00eb me pjekurin\u00eb emocionale.<\/span><\/p>

Themeli i kapacitetit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrvoja e t\u00eb qenurit vet\u00ebm n\u00eb pranin\u00eb e dikujt. K\u00ebsisoj, nj\u00eb foshnje me organizim t\u00eb dob\u00ebt egoje mund t\u00eb arrij\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00eb saje t\u00eb nj\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetje t\u00eb besueshme e t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme egoje.<\/span><\/p>

Tipi i marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies q\u00eb ekziston midis nj\u00eb foshnje dhe n\u00ebn\u00ebs ego-mb\u00ebshtet\u00ebse meriton studim t\u00eb posa\u00e7\u00ebm. Megjith\u00ebse jan\u00eb p\u00ebrdorur terma t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, sugjeroj se raportim-i-egos do mund t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb term i mir\u00eb p\u00ebr p\u00ebrdorim t\u00eb p\u00ebrkohsh\u00ebm. N\u00eb suaz\u00ebn e raportimit t\u00eb egos, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb idit ndodhin dhe fuqizojn\u00eb n\u00eb vend se t\u00eb trazojn\u00eb egon e papjekur. Gradualisht, mjedisi mb\u00ebshtet\u00ebs i egos introjektohet dhe b\u00ebhet ngrehin\u00eb n\u00eb personalitetin e individit, asisoj q\u00eb vjen n\u00eb shprehje nj\u00eb kapacitet p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb nj\u00ebmend vet\u00ebm. Edhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, n\u00eb aspektin teorik, dikush gjithmon\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i pranish\u00ebm, nj\u00eb dikush q\u00eb barazohet p\u00ebrfundimisht dhe pavet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm me n\u00ebn\u00ebn, me personin q\u00eb, n\u00eb dit\u00ebt dhe jav\u00ebt e hershme, p\u00ebrkoh\u00ebsisht u identifikua me foshnj\u00ebn e saj dhe q\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb periudh\u00eb interesohej p\u00ebr asgj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr pos kujdesit p\u00ebr foshnj\u00ebn e saj.<\/span><\/p>

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1. Anaklitike<\/em> \u00ebsht\u00eb term q\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret n\u00eb psikologji me kuptim var\u00ebsi e skajshme nga nj\u00eb ose disa persona t\u00eb tjer\u00eb p\u00ebr mb\u00ebshtetje emocionale. Modeli p\u00ebr nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie anaklitike \u00ebsht\u00eb var\u00ebsia e foshnj\u00ebs nga n\u00ebna p\u00ebr mir\u00ebqenien dhe p\u00ebrmbushjen e tij. N\u00eb psikanaliz\u00eb termi \u201czgjedhje anaklitike e objektit\u201d p\u00ebrshenjon zgjedhjen e nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebshorti ose nj\u00eb objekti tjet\u00ebr dashurie q\u00eb i p\u00ebrngjan n\u00ebn\u00ebs apo personit q\u00eb ka ofruar ngush\u00ebllim dhe mb\u00ebshtetje gjat\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb hershme. (Shtuar n\u00eb p\u00ebrkth.) https:\/\/psychologydictionary.org\/anaclitic\/<\/span><\/p>

2. Shih gjithashtu: Winnicott, D. W., \u201cPrimary Maternal Preoccupation\u201d Collected Papers: Through Pediatrics to Psycho-Analysis<\/em>. Lond\u00ebr: Botimet Tavistock, 1958, kap XXIV.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dua t\u00eb kryej nj\u00eb shqyrtim t\u00eb kapacitetit t\u00eb individit p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm, duke u nisur me supozimin se ky kapacitet \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebr shenjat m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb pjekuris\u00eb n\u00eb zhvillimin emocional. N\u00eb pothuaj t\u00eb gjitha trajtimet psikoanalitike, vjen nj\u00eb koh\u00eb kur aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr pacientin…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":18520,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"episode_type":"","audio_file":"","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","ocean_post_layout":"right-sidebar","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"ocs-kryenyje-category-post-sidebar","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"off","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,4,829],"tags":[529,237,259,530],"class_list":["post-18518","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kulture","category-kryenyje","category-perkthime","tag-genc-shehu","tag-perkthim","tag-psikanalize","tag-vetem","entry","has-media"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18518","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18518"}],"version-history":[{"count":18,"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18518\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26310,"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18518\/revisions\/26310"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18520"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18518"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18518"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nyje.al\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18518"}],"curies"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